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Will our loved ones be waiting for us?

Discussion in 'Grief in Common Updates, Questions & Answers' started by Katiebug17, Aug 13, 2019.


Are our loved ones waiting for us in heaven

  1. yes

    21 vote(s)
  2. no

    1 vote(s)
  1. Liley773

    Liley773 Well-Known Member

    Omgosh!!! Please don't lose your faith in God! I did for awhile married to my 2nd ex. Worst time of my life. He was atheist. I started questioning my faith and was lost for awhile. Biggest mistake of my life. Found my way back to God and things turned around for me. Found the love of my life, Jerry. We were almost married 10 years when God called him. As hard as this is, I know that Jerry is with God and there's signs nightly from Jerry that he is with me. Please don't think I'm crazy. God is real and will help us all through this. As much as you feel you are alone, who do you think guided you to be here with so many that understand how you are feeling right now? Believe me, we are all struggling here in different ways but are here to help each other in any way we can. I'm not a Bible thumper, nor church goer. That's all fine if it's for you. As my mother said, she preferred to "go directly to the man" when she couldn't go to church, so i developed that faith and pray directly to Him. Whatever works for you. But He is what has gotten me out of bed through all my deaths in the past 3 mos. He's keeping my job so far by helping me get to it most of the weeks so far.... I've lost 2/3rds of our household income when Jerry and mom passed. I'm totally alone. It's not easy. Especially with Covid now and I work in a medical clinic....
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  2. Lady7blue

    Lady7blue New Member

    1. I have had a lot of experiences with the supernatural so I’m positive that we move on to a different realm. I know I will see him again but I too question if me and my husband will be Together again, is he waiting for me, if he still loves me the same and just as much as I love him. I know time is man made and it doesn’t exist in the afterlife but I don’t want to wait another 40 years until I can see him again. I long for him and his touch. I don’t know how to keep going here on earth. Patience is not my virtue.
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  3. Liley773

    Liley773 Well-Known Member

    Well patience isn't mine either but I firmly believe that if you help yourself along to not being here anymore, you will be stuck between heaven and hell and won't get to see your loved ones again. Just my belief but something to look at. And I also believe in the paranormal very strongly. A lot of experiences and daily ones.
  4. skies24

    skies24 Well-Known Member

    Grief is tricky. Our lives with our loved ones will replay over and over again. I question the same. How will our relationship be when I see her in the other side. I guess I’m a way I’m not really afraid of death anymore because she will be there. But I have more work to do on this earth. Then my next thought is.. is heaven a myth. It’s tricky. I’m going to start my book tomorrow “Imagine Heaven”. I need to start some kind of spiritual journey or something. I really wish I had my grandma’s faith. She loves church and believes everything. I struggle but long to be a firm believer.
  5. Carol72156

    Carol72156 Member

    I just want to say that I did speak with a medium on the phone. She had come highly recommended by a friend. I know there's fraudulent people but there are genuine people, too. It helped a lot~ It didn't take all the grieving away. I find a little bit of relief during the day remembering the things I learned during that session. It was definitely worth it. Believe me, I really doubted my sanity and decision-making ability when I made that appointment.
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  6. Liley773

    Liley773 Well-Known Member

    Hey, at least you gave it a shot and it turned out to be a good thing for you. That's really cool.
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  7. Liley773

    Liley773 Well-Known Member

    Skies24, I did 3 sessions with that Betterhelp.com and my counselor was terrible! 3 sessions and I felt worse than I did before I did it. She ran my anxiety sky high. I'm glad you got a better one though.
  8. skies24

    skies24 Well-Known Member

    Sorry to hear you had a bad experience. I just needed to know I wasn’t going crazy!
  9. skies24

    skies24 Well-Known Member

    I’ll let you know how it goes. I can’t wait and I hope it works out. The first time he said he was not in a good mind place to do a reading. Offered a refund. I asked to just try again later. Twice more we reschedule. He reached out and we came up with aug 5.

    was you experience where you ask questions or does the medium just kind of talk? Not sure what to expect if this session goes through.
  10. edj9

    edj9 Well-Known Member

    Hi Katie, 2 months is such a short time. Your wound is still very deep and raw. Anyone who tells you otherwise and expects you to have bounced back already is ... well, you should just ignore him/her. I have never been especially religious, but loosing my husband has definitely put me in touch with my spiritual side, more than any other loss in my life. Our perception of reality is so limited and linear, and the more I read about physics, the less sure I am about the finality of death. I don’t know if life after death exists, or if it exists as we know it, but I can’t help but appreciate that the pattern that was/is my husband is eternal, and that some day I, too, will join him in that state. It doesn’t matter what others believe. It doesn’t matter whether what I believe ends up being true or not, because by the time I find out, it’ll be too late for it to matter. What matters is that hope or faith or whatever we like to call our spiritual side, sustains us and keeps the spirits of our loved ones close to us.
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  11. skies24

    skies24 Well-Known Member

    And is this something you think you would do again? I’m really hoping to make a connection with her. Not sure what I’m looking for I just want something.
  12. Mothernature

    Mothernature Member

    The nature of our faith is that we believe without proof. I've spent my whole adult life with the belief that we should wake up each day and live like there will be no tommorow. Not to spend time wondering about the after life too much. As soon a any love died it was all I could think about. My parents sent me this book and it has helped me so much! To just get a visual of where he might me, I couldn't place him anymore, the panic that came with that was overwhelming. The book is Heaven and the Angels. It has accounts of people who claimed to have died, went to heaven and came back. It's an old book , I think worth giving it a try.
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  13. whitlowing3

    whitlowing3 Member

    Exactly my thoughts...my faith is strong and I believe that my husbands parents and my mom greeted him that day. The image in my head gives me some comfort. And I agree, we need to keep on living, not taking anything for granted since we know how short life can be. Keep the faith everyone! Today is a new day ☀️
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