The love of my life

Discussion in 'Coping After a Sudden Loss' started by Lisa0717, Sep 19, 2016.

  1. Lisa0717

    Lisa0717 New Member

    Hello, my name is Lisa, my boyfriend Matthew of 6 years was tragically and abruptly taken away from me on August 27th, 2016. He was walking home from the bar and was hit by train. He was everything to me. We have a 3 year old daughter who isnt coping or understanding why daddy isnt coming home. I have 3 boys from a previous marriage and they thought of Matthew as their own father. They are older and understand what has happen, but arent doing well. I dont eat or sleep hardly at all. I work with the public and they know what has happened to my love and are so supportive but at the same time, every word they speak is a constant reminder of what happened. I know keeping this bottled up is very bad, but I sometimes think that hes going to walk through the door and say sorry Im late.... just a few short months ago, we bought our 1st home together. I dont know how Im going to afford it, being a single mother of 4 now.... everything is piling up and I feel like Im on the verge of a nervous breakdown. I just need help coping with this horrific loss. My heart is broken
     
  2. john

    john Active Member

    Oh Lisa my heart really goes out to you
     
  3. Lisa0717

    Lisa0717 New Member

    Thank u so much
     
  4. Alice

    Alice New Member

     
  5. Alice

    Alice New Member

    I also lost my boyfriend of 8 years on Aug. 17, 2o16. The day he was to be released from the hospital. It has been difficult to face each day. Today, I find myself in tears. I feel that everyone else has someone and I have lost my partner. I feel alone. If something goes wrong, I feel as if I can't cope with it. I feel his presence and it is comforting, but saddens me at the same time. I can understand how you feel.
     
  6. Keara Love

    Keara Love Member

    Almost similar to mine, I am 18 years old and i lost the guy i was with on sep 6 2016. He was on the tracks with his bestfriend. They fount them at 2 am, i remeber getting the news, everything froze, i couldnt breathe, when the cops told me they were dead before being laid on the tracks, it was murder foul play, now i dont know how to live life again...
     
  7. Tara Wehry

    Tara Wehry Member

    My heart goes out to you, the sudden death of a partner is a hell of an adjustment. Especially if you have kids that understandably aren't coping well. I lost my loving husband of 24years suddenly 9 days ago of cardiac arrest. It's been shear hell. We didn't have children, just each other, I'm really feeling the emptiness.
     
  8. Tara Wehry

    Tara Wehry Member

    I can really understand, you're so used to him being there, the pain is unbearable. This is someone you love. You really don't want to go on. You feel like your heart will never mend. You want answers when there aren't any. I understand completely because I miss my loving husband of 24 years whom I lost 9 days ago. It sucks I know
     
  9. Tara Wehry

    Tara Wehry Member

     
  10. Tara Wehry

    Tara Wehry Member

    Oh my God you poor woman, a murder, I won't lie to you. I can't fathom what you must feel. That's news nobody wants to receive. You are so young, and you have time on your side. It's going to take a lot of time. May God be with you through your struggle Keara. May He comfort you and bring you peace.
     
  11. Keara Love

    Keara Love Member

    Thank you, Its only been a month and 6 days, Our son can't sleep without his dad, its upsetting. But I just gotta move on
     
  12. Keara Love

    Keara Love Member

    Its gonna kill me and it will take time but I gotta try