There are common statements and topics posted on this site. The big ones are dealing with people who don't understand and are so uncomfortable with pain. The book It's is OK that you're are not OK. Deals with that topic and the author Megan Devine put some very well thought out sociological and cultural commentary that I have found useful. This book came to my attention from Michele Wood a grief poster I came to know on this site. I have tremendous respect for her. I would encourage anyone to go back and read her if for nothing else her tone of voice. Loneliness, the sense of being lost, pain, disorientation, are all topics or threads that could be discussed. The lack of sleep and days of insomnia we all have experienced. I will qualify a bit. My first three months I could not read. I will always say I do not live grief it lives me. At any stage, I could not have been any different. Many of the symptoms were what I would guess to have had a concussion. Forgetfulness, memory, unable to perform logic sequence and this list can go on. The topic that is often discussed is a sleep disorder. I have scheduled a sleep apnea consultation. I have used clonazepam, A form on Niquill for sleep, heavy exercise, and some limited alcohol, some pain pills. Sometimes separate or in combination. Also, cut back on stimulants, like coffee or nicotine. I have used melatonin and sleepy time herbal tea. My sister had watched a documentary that addresses this topic. Examples from her input are a dark room, sleep only in the bedroom, time out from electronics for a period of time prior to going to bed. There are more but I don't remember. My latest is banana, organic, sliced into rounds and boiled. Drink the tea and you may or may not also eat the boiled banana rounds. The idea is the magnesium and potassium will relax you enough for better sleep. Many "guests" come and go here. Some people read with no comments. I get that many are so drowning in grief that is all they have at present. I would request some interaction on either other ideas or if any of these were tried and people report back. We are all in the same boat, are we not? The more pharma and laboratory built sleep aid generally leave me dehydrated and hung over the next morning. So hence the more natural products. best to us all!!!