Hello Everyone. I may have posted this topic somewhere but as many experience grief fog and memory problems. I am at 15 months so better. The insomnia was horrific and unstoppable. There is a good deal of time for mental processing in grief. That may take as long as it takes. I will just update you a little. These ideas are OK but would likely not be effective till more recently. So just ideas pending your own stages and severity. The obsessive thoughts are draining but we do this no matter. There is so much to process and all at once. That is overwhelming for anybody.' The February Time magazine has an article on sleep. Many have sleep apnea and the airway closes. There are sleep clinics and a CPAP device may be needed. Basically force air down the nostrils. It has taken a good while and most recently some eight-hour sleep time. This may be just time for my brain to calm or a combination of time and more active attempts to calm. Hard to say. I have added exercise. Mostly walking. There is relief from doing that. A little more tired and more relaxed so sleep may have a better chance. Very Gentle Yoga is very good. Really any activity that diverts our 24/7 minds. Any that calm or relax. Pleasant conversations are great for that. If we are engaged in visiting then we may not self-talk as much. Dance like clogging or line, singing/sound work, Thi-Chi, acting, more well-known exercise. Just movement, music, social. All are helpful if you can. No matter how much or what type. Calming is needed for that overworked brain. I have added some more herbal sleep aids and focus aids. These are usually not researched. May work for some and not others. Hopefully, the more plant-based and vitamin-based supplements are helpful. General well-balenced dies should handle all that. I have added herbal no caffeine tea but still coffee and tobacco. Lots of sleep environment ideas. Darkroom. try to not be in front of electronics an hour prior to your attempt to sleep. Good luck there. Coffe has a 12-hour half-life. If I think of more I will post it. Hope this helps!!