New loss

Discussion in 'Coping After a Sudden Loss' started by Belovedbyjim, Jan 19, 2018.

  1. Belovedbyjim

    Belovedbyjim Member

    its been 3 months today
     
  2. Sue Pennington

    Sue Pennington New Member

    It’s been just over 4 months since I lost my husband. He passed 2.5+ years after our son.
     
  3. Belovedbyjim

    Belovedbyjim Member

    Hi, my condolences on your husbands passing. And so close behind your son. In the beginning I lived in a fog. There’s a lot I don’t remember, like conversations with others. I still find it difficult to concentrate.
     
  4. irene silbert

    irene silbert Member

    Hi, life is so cruel at times, so sorry to hear about your husband's passing on the heels of your son. My heart is also broken, I suddenly lost my brother, 60, this past December 24th. He died of a sudden heart attack. I am not working right now and find it very difficult to concentrate and prioritize. My heartwrenched Mom, 88, who has always had a busy schedule and remaining brother, 63, who works fulltime are better equipped to march on and get back to their routines.
     
  5. jacqualine raper

    jacqualine raper New Member

    So sorry for your loss. I lost my husband a month ago from a sudden heart attack. We were married for 30 years and I honestly believe I will be sad and miserable for the rest of my days that I have left in this life. I really don't know how I'm going to get through this emotional roller-coaster. I never thought emotional pain could be so utterly horrible.
     
  6. griefic

    griefic Administrator Staff Member

    Jacqualine, I am so sorry for your loss. There is no easy way to lose someone we love, but when it was very sudden there was also no time to prepare. I don't know the answer exactly of how to get through, I can only say I know so many people who do. People who were just where you are at now: new in loss, lost and suffering and so uncertain about their future. And then somehow, and some way, they made it through. I do know it happens best with the right support and I hope we can provide that to you here. I thank you for joining us. Please let me know if we can be a support in any way. Take care~
     
  7. April S.

    April S. New Member

    So sorry for your loss. I too, lost my husband of 25 years. Eight months ago, he died suddenly in his sleep. We kissed each other goodnight and said our I love you’s and two hours latter and two gasping sounds he was gone.
    I couldn’t talk to anyone the first month. After the second month, I could leave the house. After 3 months, I went back to work. If I didn’t work, I’d probably never leave the house. My husband was everything to me, I just never feel like doing anything. They say time heals all wounds but I don’t think “they” ever loss the love of their life.

    I’m sure you were hoping for something more uplifting, but just know, I know exactly the emotional-roller coaster you’re on because I’m in the car right beside you.
     
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  8. Carolyn24

    Carolyn24 Member

    I feel exactly the same. I lost my husband to a car accident 8 months ago. We were married 37 years,and I too never knew how severe emotional pain could be or just how long it can last. I've shed countless tears over beloved pets and both of my parents, but this is just unbearable and unending. I too am riding in that same car with you and thinking the trip will never end. I do find a bit of comfort here, finding there are others who understand what we experience. Memorial Day weekend was difficult. My husband was a Vietnam veteran, and we would have been grilling outside and enjoying a beautiful weekend. Instead I stayed home, did a load of wash, and watched Netflix. Alone.
     
  9. xHeavYMetaLx

    xHeavYMetaLx Member

    Sorry for your lose this shit sucks! People tell me in a few months then few years it will get better but i doubt it. For me at least.