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Never be the same

Discussion in 'Grief in Common Updates, Questions & Answers' started by Adrienna, Apr 18, 2019.

  1. Adrienna

    Adrienna New Member

    Everyday I struggle to live. I know they say don't question why..I'm just blank. I thought she was ok. She said she was fine. I said you sure ma cause I'm gonna go have a drink. She said go ahead I'll be here..but i came back to a murder scene...i tried to save her..but she died in my arms..
     
    Adrienna, Apr 18, 2019
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  2. griefic

    griefic Administrator Staff Member

    Adrienna, I am so very sorry for your loss. It sounds like you have been through a terrible trauma, and it's one that so few people will be able to understand. I think it's very normal to question "why?". After loss our mind is filled with questions and the longing for the answers we may never get. You don't have to do this in any way but the way that works for you, and there is absolutely no guidebook or timeline for a loss like this. Start by reaching out, making connections, talking to people, and knowing that you are not alone in this loss. We are here to help~
     
    griefic, Apr 25, 2019
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  3. Ray G.

    Ray G. Well-Known Member

    Dear Adrienna, I am so sorry for
    your loss as I too am going through
    grieving a wife of 1 yt and 76 days.

    No one who loses a loved one will
    ever be the same. We press on and
    we do what's gotta get done, have
    a nice place to live but a lovely
    Song that was once in our heart
    is gone and it will take some time
    to get through it, not over it but
    through it. We never want to get
    over it.

    We somehow learn to deal with our
    loss and though others think we
    are doing well and we might be,
    there are always the nights,

    Yes Adrienna I have had an awfull lot of ?' s too and no answers and
    slowly ever so it seems, I will never
    know why. And yes that hurts, but
    what hurts is not having your
    Mom around or my dainty and
    Loving wife.

    We will in time, a long time from
    now accept the loss of our loved
    ones on an intellectual level but
    the heart, I feel will never really
    accept our loss of a loved one.
     
    Ray G., May 9, 2019
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