My Mom Died

Discussion in 'Loss of a Parent' started by Aude, Mar 10, 2019.

  1. Aude

    Aude New Member

    My Mom died 5 days ago. I was her primary caregiver for the last 14 months and her best friend for all my life. I’m packing up her house and talking to attorneys and accountants. But I am so broken. I go into robotic activity to make things happen but then I go back home and am utterly shattered. I feel isolated and vulnerable. I want to run away, or go into a coma, or just disappear. I hate evenings- it’s dark and lonely and so sad. Where did the light go?
     
  2. griefic

    griefic Administrator Staff Member

    Aude, I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like your mother was a very special person, and when we lose someone who played many roles in our lives, it can suddenly feel like we've lost more than "just" one person. I think most grievers find the quiet of the evenings to be an especially difficult time - too much time to think is rarely a good thing, but that's especially true in loss.
    This is a very very new loss, and it will take time - more time than we could ever expect - to begin to adapt to this very significant change. I'm glad you're reaching out for support and hope we can be a help to you. Please take care~
     
  3. Senida Santoyo

    Senida Santoyo New Member

    I'm so sorry of your great loss. I loss my mother 1 month and nine days ago. I'm a mess. I'm an only child and had to do everything alone. Plan her funeral, deal with family members that were not interested in helping me at all. It was only good friends that helped me with resources to bury my mom. She died after a series of 2 major strokes, after pneumonia which was caused by a neglectful doctor releasing her to a nursing home while still very ill. I'm a mess.
     
  4. Senida Santoyo

    Senida Santoyo New Member

    Please hang in there. This is a very difficult time. I am so sorry that you have go thru this. I'm glad you are reaching out. Please keep reaching out.
     
  5. Aude

    Aude New Member

    Hi Senida, I am very sorry for the loss of your dear mother. I understand that feeling of aloneness. I have it, too. The weird part is I sort of want to be alone much of the time- alone with my thoughts. I hope that someday we can get back into some kind of normality. Take care, Senida, and write back if you like.