Lost the love of mylife

Discussion in 'Coping After a Sudden Loss' started by Jitsky, Oct 6, 2019.

  1. Jitsky

    Jitsky New Member

    My sweet husband was returning home and had a heart attack on the flight home on9/16.I received a call from the Coroners office and the last 3 weeks have been surreal dealing with unexpected expenses, cremation, mortuaries, death certificates. It’s all just so much so suddenly
  2. Chili_Rick

    Chili_Rick Member

    My condolences. So much stress immediately after their passing. It's an education I don't wish on anyone.

  3. Medapa

    Medapa Member

    My condolences, I know all to well the overwhelming stress, forms and the legalities that comes along with death. I lost my husband unexpectedly and suddenly 6 montgs ago. Im still dealing with the fall out. Make lists, try and get one task a day or everyother day. Slowly you get through it. Its hard and it sucks and it rips you apart everytime you have to write his name, or make a phone call. Ask for help. Thats the big one.
  4. Newenglander

    Newenglander Member

    It's all awful and it's all overwhelming. So many decisions. Making them and then wondering if you made the right decision. The best advice I got is to take your time and don't rush into anything. Do things when you are ready. 81 days.
  5. Chili_Rick

    Chili_Rick Member

    Very true. Most of the hard stuff is done as it will be 2 years in December. Although I can mostly control my emotions, there are still triggers that cause me to cry a bit. I can mostly talk about it now, but I will drive by something we did together and the memories sadden me. It's hard, but I think the way out is to try to remember the joy of that moment.....could be wrong.

    Thanks for the encouragement.
  6. RLC

    RLC New Member

    I am so sorry for you. Nothing prepares you for this. The best I can offer is take one day, one hour even just one minute at a time. I made lists and just tried to do my best. I lost my husband 11 months ago. I’m still dealing with things. I had to close our business that we built together and empty our shop. Hardest thing I’ve ever done. Don’t push too hard or too fast. Most things can wait. Accept any and all help offered.