Lost one daughter, another is using...

Discussion in 'Loss from Substance Abuse' started by ridgetop01, Jun 23, 2018.

  1. ridgetop01

    ridgetop01 New Member

    I lost my 39 year old daughter to a heroin overdose (laced with fentanyl) on 6/26/17. Since then, my 28 year old daughter spent 5 months in jail for failing a drug test - she is addicted to heroin - got out, stayed out for 1 month, and is now back in after failing another drug test because of heroin. I don't understand how she can even consider using after seeing her sister die, and knowing that her next dose can be her last, and I don't know what to say to her to get her to come to her senses and get into recovery. I'm glad she is back in jail - at least I know she's safe. I still am grieving the loss of my eldest, and this news has just thrown my life into turmoil (and that of my husband and middle daughter, who thankfully is not a drug user). I know all about not enabling this "child". What I want to know is, what can I say/do that will somehow bring her to her senses? I can't stand to lose another daughter.

    Thanks for listening.
  2. Jeannette

    Jeannette New Member

    My story mirrors yours. I lost my oldest son 3 years ago tonight, 10-12-15, from heroin/fentanyl. He was 29. My younger son and only remaining child is currently in jail, about to go to yet another treatment center for heroin. I'm not even me anymore... just a fearful mess waiting for THAT call. Today was just awful. No one remembered the anniversary of my Matt's death and I needed someone to. Sorry if my thoughts sound all scrambled... they are.
  3. ridgetop01

    ridgetop01 New Member

    You remembered Matt - that's what is important. I am so sorry that we are both members of this club. My Sarah gets out of her first rehab stint late this month and I am praying that what she is hearing there is sinking in, that she is absorbing the tools she will need so they are there when the time comes that she needs them. I pray for her nightly about that, and I will pray for your son too. Take care of yourself - this is so hard and we need to be gentle with ourselves.
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