Lost my soul mate.

Discussion in 'LGBT Loss' started by xuniowlx, Sep 18, 2018.

  1. xuniowlx

    xuniowlx New Member

    Hi, I recently lost my girlfriend who was also my best friend. I don't know how to cope without her. She kept me strong, calm, focused. I was going to ask her to be my wife. we had plans for the rest of your life together and now she is gone. she was the stronger one of the two of us. She would know what to say to me to calm me down. My support network is gone, my friend is gone. my life is gone.

    I can't stop crying and hurting myself. I just don't know how to cope with this pain.
     
  2. griefic

    griefic Administrator Staff Member

    Dear Xuniowlx,
    I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your girlfriend. Learning how to manage a life without someone we love in it can feel like an impossible task. There are some losses that leave such an enormous void, it feels the only thing left is pain. I have often heard grievers say, "if something happens to me, I really wouldn't care", and I truly understand that statement as a way of trying to express just how painful the grieving process is.
    However, I'm concerned about the comment on your profile and wanted to be sure to reach out and let you know there are options available. Connecting with other grievers can be a wonderful tool for coping as often they are the only ones who can truly understand. But if you are in immediate crisis please reach out here: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org for help. They have an online chat and phone option.
    I'm glad you are with us and encourage you to let the people in your life know just how much you are hurting.
    Please take care~
     
  3. Sciguy

    Sciguy Well-Known Member

    Sorry to hear about your girlfriend. While nobody can know exactly how you feel, all of us here are grieving. Hopefully, you will find this site helpful - even if just to vent.
     
  4. PRB1967

    PRB1967 Member

    Sorry to hear of your loss, i too am going through the crying all the time, please reach out get counciling to help with healing, I started it kinda helps .
     
  5. PRB1967

    PRB1967 Member

     
  6. Julie Brown

    Julie Brown Member


    Xunlowlx, I am so sorry you are going through this. I too lost the love of my life, my soulmate, my everything on July 28th 2018. It seems like nothing matters anymore, like you're all alone. But remember one thing...You are not alone! I have found people on this website are going through the same thing I am going through. Although its a rough time, talk with some people on here and listen to what they say. They are going through the same thing you are going through. They feel the pain you feel. I wish I could say it gets easier, but for me its that I am learning to cope better. I guess that is a start.
    May I ask what happened? If you're not up to talking about it right now, I understand.
     
  7. xuniowlx

    xuniowlx New Member


    Talking to others have helped a little but not a whole lot. She suddenly got ill and the infection was too strong, the doctors couldn't control it and they did try everything they could but she was too weak.