Lost my son to an accident at age 21

I'm from Ontario, Canada. New to this site and new ( June 16/19) to living without my 21 year old son. He died by drowning after a night out with friends. I have a son and a daughter left and my wife. I'm still in shock? Disbelief? I'm angry. I will accept any advice at all. Thank you!

 

Thanks everybody! I'll do it alone!

 

This is a very bad time for
you and tho there is a totally
different relationship than
to a wife, there is a very large
amount of heartbreak.

The plans you had to do father
and son projects or house things
or maybe sports. Either way it
Is going to hurt for some time

Grieving is a stage where we
lose a loved one, we know that
but grieving can not be short
circuited or by-passed. When
there is a heart felt loss, it must
be taken care of by talking to
others at grief support meetings,
talking to someone in the church.
Left alone with no means of
expressing deep sadness is NOT
going to help.

There could be a lot of anger
built up and it leaks into
other parts of our life. It did
with me. I was and maybe to
a lesser extent still angry
about things and it is simply
going to take time to work
out and yeah mood swings.
Best thing to do is find a group
to join.