Lost my mom last year. Still in denial

my mom was my Bestfriend. She went on vacation last year and never came back.

 

So sorry to hear of your loss. I can certainly relate to what you are dealing with. Exactly 5 mos ago my sister passed away. We were extremely close and was my best friend. I try to take one day at a time...that is all we can do.

 

I’m sorry for your loss. It’s extremely difficult to be without your Bestfriend. I’m still so lost.

 

I am sorry you lost your Mom.
I was close to mine also. Lost her three years ago in Oct. Six months after I lost my husband. In six months I lost the two most important people in my life.

I miss them both.
Now I am afraid to get close to anyone for fear I loose them also.

 

It’s not the same, but my two biggest fears where losing my ex and my mom. My ex and I split after 10 years and then my mom
Passed. It just makes you question everything. I can’t be close to anyone either.

 

I really hate that I can't be close to anyone now.
It's lonely this way.

 

It’s extremely lonely. Do you go to any type of therapy?

 

Therapy is a great tool. It's just not my thing.

 

Do you go to any of type therapy?

I am doing a lot better. I just find myself trying to pull away when I think someone is getting attached to me. I am blessed since the people around me are aware of this. So they give me my space when I need it.


It's a work in progress .

 

My mother and I worked together. We both were realtors and she owned her own office. As much as I wanted to quit real estate I knew she wouldn’t like it. I have three younger sisters none which took my mom’s occupational road. Every day has been a struggle since her death to go to work. Today seems even harder. It’s just a trigger every time I have to go to work. I feel like I’ve been doing so well, but lately it’s a struggle to get out of bed which is not like me. This is why I believe I’m still in denial I keep thinking she’s going to walk in through that door at the office. Or my phones going to ring And I’m gonna get to hear voice again

 

Linda, I think that we’ve been hurt so deeply that it’s just easier to keep a wall up and not let anybody in. I totally understand it. Do you ever feel like you may be a burden on people? Like Nobody understands Grief unless they’ve been through it and especially when you lose something so close

 

My dad was my best friend He went in the hospital in November for swelling in his legs.He had on and off heart problems.I thought it was only for a short time.He was doing better the end of november.i did not want him to go for rehab in the hospital and i pleaded with him to come home but he would not listen.The next week because his blood pressure was low they put him him on some drug called dobutamine to raise it.A couple of days later he got a fever and then all of a sudden he could not walk.Then by Saturday he passed away.That was December 8th and it still feels like last week.

 

Drew,
It’s such a crazy thing how it just happens all of a sudden. I am still in denial. It’s so hard to believe. Never being able to
Just pick up the phone and call

 

Do you have a hard time sleeping.

 

Of course I do! Do you?

 

Yes it is hard to get to sleep.

 

I agree that it is very difficult to get to sleep and then to stay asleep. So much going on in my mind. When that happens I get up and do something such as reading, tv, etc.

 

Exactly. I know people do not understand. My husband's best friend seem to avoid me for a long time. Then his wife passed away and he finally gets how I feel. He apologized for the way he had behaved . Sad that someone has to experience it before they understand how we feel.