Hi, I'm new to this but I really need to get with others who might understand how I am feeling. We were married 47 years, best friends. I still miss him as if it happened yesterday. My issue is I have returned to "normal" life and keep a smile on my face for family and friends, but I am still dying inside. I know life goes on and I understand that. What I don't understand is how my sister can tell me that I need to adjust and pull my big girl panties up. I am so hurt by her comment and actions. It is as if I have lost her too. Her idea and my idea of family are different. We lead different life styles. However I have always been there for her and I guess I expected the same treatment. Instead she has told me that if I need something, call her, but she won't make the effort because she doesn't believe in being a "pest". Thank God for wonderful friends who have filled in for family. I am not sure I would have made it this far without them. I am just hurt that my own sister cannot be more understanding. Am I way off base?