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Discussion in 'Loss of Child' started by Nicole12, May 10, 2019.

  1. Nicole12

    Nicole12 New Member

    Loss my 18 yr old daughter
     
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  2. AdriaStar

    AdriaStar Active Member

    I'm so sorry Nicole, hugs to you.
     
  3. KJ-Kathy

    KJ-Kathy Active Member

     
  4. Fatheroftyler

    Fatheroftyler New Member

    I lost my 18 yr old son 2 days before Christmas, killed by 3 of his best friends, I am truly sorry for your loss
     
  5. KJ-Kathy

    KJ-Kathy Active Member

     
  6. Renisea Avery

    Renisea Avery Member

    I want to give my condolence to the family. I am so sorry for the lost of your love one.
    May the peace of God that excels all thought I sustain and keep you during the difficult days head. – Philippians 4:7
     
  7. Tammysue44

    Tammysue44 New Member

    i am so sorry for you guys..i lost my son in 2015..sudden accident he just turned 20...a week before..then a year later i lost my nephew due to that he was murderd..when my son died my nephew gave up so yes i am dealing with 2 losses..i still cry everyday sometimes i ask god to take me home...pain gets unberible at times...
     
  8. Helen54

    Helen54 Member

    Hi, I am so sorry for all your loses, I to lost my son in November am heartbroken, some days I just don’t want to be here anymore, love to you all Helen x
     
  9. Carol72156

    Carol72156 New Member

    Same here, Helen --- everything I do seems pointless now that my son is gone. On my drive home from work, I talk to him and bawl my eyes out because he won't be home when I get there.
     
  10. Helen54

    Helen54 Member

    It is just hard at times, I try to be stronger but inside I’m in so much pain, I just miss Daniel so much, when I’m at work I just keep busy but the minute I leave that’s when it hits me hard, I can’t even look at he’s pictures, I go and see Daniel once a week, which I hate doing but feel I must, but I still can’t believe it is my son there, and I don’t think I ever will, love to up Helen x
     
  11. JulesAZ

    JulesAZ New Member

    Lost my 42 yr old son to a lung clot 3 weeks ago. Reaching out to others because talking helps keep my mind not focused on him. He was my only.
     
  12. Carol72156

    Carol72156 New Member

    My son was 38 years old and had ongoing health issues. He was on disability and lived with me. It was me and Ben against the world ;-) On April 20th I returned home from work and found him in bed. It was a shock and it's still a shock. It's just an existence now and everything seems meaningless. The soul-crushing grief comes in waves but it's never ok and a co-worker said something yesterday that was like a slap in the face. She was getting on my case for an error I made with scheduling and commented it was good that the supervisor still takes "what happened in the Spring" into consideration but ... blah, blah, blah. I didn't hear the rest of what she said because I was completely astounded that she was so callous. It hasn't even been 3 months and I'll NEVER be the same again!
     
  13. Helen54

    Helen54 Member

    So sorry for all your loses, to lose a child is the worse thing that could ever happen to anyone , my son Daniel was 34, went to Spain for a bit, he rang everyday and just that one day new something was wrong, but my ex husband was saying no he is fine, but I knew in my heart it wasn’t, I didn’t no where the villa was he did, I keeper calling him, hopping he would get back to me, but nothing, after a week my ex went out there, and waiting for that phone call, and then finally I got phone call, I lost my son, he was on the floor, died of carbon dioxide, the pain and heartache he was there all alone just breaks me, it’s been nearly 7 months and I still can’t look at Daniels picture, I know Daniel as gone, but I still can’t and don’t want to believe it, love to you all Helen x
     
  14. Helen, I am so sorry for the loss of your son. There is nothing more unnstural than for a parent to bury a child. My daughter, Alyx, was murdered on February 9th. We had to wait for coroners report. It came Tuesday. I was not prepared for the actual results. I feel almost as horrified as I did that 1st day. The details..haunting me to my core. I KNOW she is complete, and at peace. I feel a bit selfish..missing her and falling apart. Way back when, death was to be celebrated bc that meant the departed werent 'gone' but transferred to a better..a complete place. Hence, the song Temporary Home. Along the way, man has turned it into a dark occasion. There is NO DOUBT its dark..but I try to redirect my thoughts. We are grieving. They are complete. We are here on a 'temporary stay'. Our lived ones would want us to use our time here on something better than grieving. Im not sure how..I dont even feel human. I hear myself speak..and I know its me..but its like Its someone elses life. I dont understand ..I just wish I could take your pain away. Say some magic words..in the meantime, Ill be praying for you and I am here if you want to vent.
     
  15. So sorry, Carol...I am glad you are here.
     
  16. Helen54

    Helen54 Member

     
  17. Helen54

    Helen54 Member

    I’m so sorry for the loss of your daughter, that must of been so terrible , just hope we can find some comfort all of us, as we all know what we are going though and the pain, as only people that have lost a child will really understand the pain and hurt we are going though, love to you all Helen x
     
  18. So sorry, Jules. I cane on to this site yesterday for the first time. I had no idea so many others are experiencing similar losses. Hugs to all.
     
  19. Helen54

    Helen54 Member

    I think we just think we are the only ones going though this , but there re so many people going though the same as we are, love to you all Helen x
     
  20. Thank you so much for that. Its..unbearable at times. When I was asked to come in this past Tuesday, I thought somehow..it will begin the healing process. The victory was that Alyxs death was officially ruled a homicide. Victory bc initially it was set at suspicious. Due to the pandemic, it took months. What I believed to cause her death was bad enough. Reality of the actual causes have my entire family feeling like its the first day of loss again. I dont want to get caught up in the details bc they eat you up..but I cant shut the racing thoughts. Like you thinking of your son alone. Im sure you think of what he was thinking last, etc. Im not sure the manner of death changes the level of grief at all. Losing a child..is NOT supposed to happen. Period. We can have hope and help eachother, all of us. I know nothing else to ease it