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? If I have PTSD after my husband passing was caregiver 9 years

Discussion in 'Grief in Common Updates, Questions & Answers' started by Patti 61, Sep 8, 2021.

  1. Patti 61

    Patti 61 Guest

    I totally took care of my husband his last nine years, after 24 years
    Of Parkinsons it has been 4 years 10 months yesterday that he passed.
    I can't get those years of his condition and suffering from my mind,
    I lately am questioning if I have PTSD now.
    I never had high bloodpressure till after his passing, Physician
    can't get it under control, seeing a new family physician next week,
    will talk to him about my ? ing myself if I could have PTSD.
    I appreciate others replays, thanks.
    Patti
     
  2. Gardner

    Gardner New Member

    Yes I do think you can have PTSD after being a caregiver of a loved one . I know I did . I lost my Adult child after caring for him for him for years . He had become my world . Ten years have passed and I am better now from that issue . Recently I lost my husband and Mother and suffer differently . It took me 2-3 years to climb out of the hole I was in after my son paseed . I just kept repeating to myself that I did the best I could with what I knew at the time . It helped after a time . I asked God to remove the difficult memories and allow me to see the happy ones.
     
  3. Patti 61

    Patti 61 Guest

    Thank you for replying to me.
    My heartfelt condolences on
    loss of your son, recent loss
    of your husband and mother.
    I pray daily for God to
    release this grief so filled with
    anxiety and nervousness.
    I thank God everyday for
    the strength HE provided
    during those years. Family
    Physician wanted me to go
    on antidepressant medication,
    said when time came he would
    help me get off of it. Did you
    take medication to help you?
    My husband and I were blessed
    61 years married when he went
    to Heaven. I appreciate you
    posting to me.
    Blessings, Patti
     
  4. Gardner

    Gardner New Member

     
  5. Gardner

    Gardner New Member

    Hi Patti, sorry you are going through all this . After my son passed no I did not take antidepressant but my Dr offered them . Looking back I should have as I suffered tremendously. When my husband died so suddenly I knew I could not go through years of hell again , so I took the Drs offer . I stayed on a half dosage for 15 months which got me through the worst . I grieved and cried and was sad but I could function and knew I would come out changed but ok . Im ok now , I weaned myself off 5 months ago . I still grieve but things are better . God Bless .
     
  6. Patti 61

    Patti 61 Guest

    Hi, thanks for getting back to me.
    I just noticed you are a new member
    at GIC, I am thankful we can all come
    together here , giving one another
    support.
    My husband name is Jack, may I ask
    your first name and your loved ones
    names? I lost my only brother Carl, he
    was laid to rest same time my Jack went
    to Heaven, both my parents two years before.
    My Dr. gave me prescription for Lexapro
    (low dose) told him I would think about it.
    I have lived these last five years telling. myself,
    ( as many people have heard that ole saying )
    " mind over matter ." However, crazy as it
    may sound,in the past I did briefly search
    Google about mind control, but then questioned
    myself if I may have PTSD. Never had high BP till
    after Jack passed, cardiologist said it's Labile BP.
    Do you mind telling me what antidepressant you
    took? Any bad side effects?
    Hope to hearback from you.
    Prayers for you and all of us here.
    Blessings, Patti
     
  7. Gary166

    Gary166 Guest

    Hi Patti this is Gary. I was just cruising the site and I saw your post here. I had no idea after losing Jack you lost your brother Carl around the same time and your parents two years before that. I’m very sorry you had multiple loss. I don’t know if I could handle that. I’m taking Bupropion XL for depression. I was on it about 8 years ago but weaned myself off till 3 years ago. I started taking it again because I was experiencing a sadness that I had no reason for. I was taking 300 mg until Cheryl passed then the doctor bumped it up to 450 mg. It helps a lot. I also sit in from of a happy light(light therapy) in the morning 15-30 minutes. I have been trying to practice mindfulness too. I read the book Radical Acceptance by Tara Brack. She is very helpful and has guided meditations there. My blood pressure spiked when Cheryl passed to but returned back to the normal. I check it everyday day. An unusual thing happened the first of October. I was feeling tired. My blood pressure was too low so I cut my dosage in half. It was still too low so I stopped taking it. I check it every day or two. And it hasn’t gone over 140 yet. I hope this helps you. Gary
     
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  8. Patti 61

    Patti 61 Guest

    Hi Gary, this morning I was revisiting, reading back postings I had
    started, good to see yours here. Gary thanks for info I shall do
    a search for Tara, also check for her on you tube.
    Been keeping you in prayer ( along with all others.) Extra special
    prayers medically for you. My surgery has been put off till end
    of March (not good, it is what it is ) due to covid. I had
    confidence in our Doctors in Ca. I don’t here.
    I’ve never really talked about all that Jack went through on GIC
    during his last years, still haven’t been able to, it was a long
    heart wrenching 24 year journey for him and myself, I never really
    realized it on myself, till after he passed.
    He loved the Lord, his last whispered prayer
    “Thank you God for today, tomorrow and all the tomorrows after”
    I know Jack is in Heaven reaping ALL God had waiting for him.
    My everlasting love continues forever for Jack, it took years after
    he passed to remember our wonderful life together, before
    Parkinson’s. The PD robbed us of so much however,
    it couldn’t rob us of our Faith.
    Blessings , Patti