To whom it may concern: my first time on this site so forgive me if I’m in the wrong place. Here’s my story. I lost my husband late last year to cancer. Afterwards I was in pretty good shape, missing him but most of the time happy. Then a month ago I got this idea in my head that I wanted male companionship. I wasn’t sure exactly what I was looking for. I signed up on the two biggest sites, match.com and eharmony to try out online dating. I learned lots about what say and how to say it in my dating profile. But by the time I wised up I had been through enough misunderstandings to be fed up. The last potential match put me over the edge. He lured me in with flattery and a promise of feeling true love for the rest of my life. I started to care for him, started to love him, then found out how controlling and inflexible he was. When I realized what he really was, I cried because my dream was shattered and I thought “that’s it, you found your soulmate and he died and now you’ll never have anyone else again”. I am feeling demoralized and vulnerable. I get teary eyed just thinking about it now. I can’t help thinking that I may be overreacting because it’s bringing up emotions that I’ve been ignoring. I don’t know if people respond to a story but if so you are welcome to, and would love to know about other dating experiences.