My husband Justus died one month ago today. I feel completely lost. I have no idea how to move forward. I am completely miserable without him.
I lost my husband on Thanksgiving. He lived 5-1/2 years post hemorrhagic stroke and was suddenly taken from us. I too am finding it difficult to live without my best friend of 33 years. I am so sorry you feel this pain. I lost my husband/best friend on Thanksgiving and still struggle. I guess I am not that much help other than to say I can relate and this is the worst feeling in the world!
Hi. I am so sorry for your recent loss and continue to struggle after losing my husband, Mike, seven months ago. We celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary last August 6 and had been together 32. He passed on October 19 2024 from a brain bleed. I am so glad you joined this community of support. I’m new to the group. I truly understand feeling lost and miserable. Hugs
Shalane died 29 days ago, she was the reason I’d go to work everyday, come home everyday and really was the reason 10 years ago I went through major cancer surgery to live and be with her. Shalane had been fighting AFIB and heart failure for the last five years and i quickly became her caregiver, doing all I could to make her life easier, cooking and shopping and cleaning and dr appointments, helping her shower and steady her as she walked. I love Shalane so much. Now that she is gone, I’ve been struggling to understand why I even go on, why am I trying so hard? Therapy helps, I’m not permitted to group therapy til next month but one in one has helped some. I started to wake up and dedicate my actions to help others to Shalane, to let her selfless acts she did while she was alive flow through me. It helps but it will never replace her or cure my guilt that I could have done more in the end. I’m hoping to find purpose and I hope you’ll have moments will find purpose as well! Best to you!
My wife Susan died two years ago on 12/30/2023. There is not a day that goes by that I do not think and mourn for her. However the Lord, GriefShare, friends and family help me through. About four months into it I was so down that I thought I would never be able to go in. I fell face down and begged God to help me. 30 minutes later I received a call from a cousin inviting me to dinner. This was a life saver. Her and her husband we so loving and thoughtful. We had a wonderful family gathering. It was just what I needed. It proved to me that God always looks out for us in our darkest moments. GriefShare group therapy was also an amazing blessing. It helps to talk and commiserate with others in similar situations. Truly a blessing. I will say that the pain never goes away, but it does lessen.
Thank you for those encouraging words for many who are suffering so much. God wants to help us if we only turn to him with all our heart and ask Him to help. He helped me to go on when I thought it was impossible to go even one day. He is still helping me every day. Sometimes we don't realize how great our need for Him is. To come into the wonderful presence of God is the greatest experience anyone could ever have and it is especially essential when everything else in life has 'fallen through' and the rug has been pulled out from under us. God has the strength, healing, love, and compassion we need so much in this life. Chris
