Has anyone else found that once widowed you fall to the bottom of friends’ priority lists? I have had four social engagements either cancelled or just not met this week because people prioritised other things/people above a commitment made to me. One said she forgot, not for the first time. One didn’t turn up without even having the grace to notify me in advance or to apologise afterwards. I later learned that she had gone to see her son. Two cancelled at the last minute having replaced our social meet with arrangements made later with their partners. This week isn’t exceptional. I get that other people have partners and families and that these take priority, but why make arrangements with me in the first place? It may be of little consequence to them but I don’t have any family or a partner. Do people make arrangements like his without any intention of fulfilling them and if so why?