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Appreciating beauty again

Discussion in 'Loss of Spouse' started by edj9, Jul 19, 2020.

  1. edj9

    edj9 Well-Known Member

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    From a bench down the road from where I live.

    This is the first photo of scenery I’ve felt like sharing since Chuck died. For a while, I couldn’t. I would have to avert my eyes from a sunset or a view like this. It was just too painful to think that I couldn’t share it with him.

    It still hurts, but I can compartmentalize it now.
     
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  2. edj9

    edj9 Well-Known Member

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    Yeah, let’s try that again.
     
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  3. RLC

    RLC Well-Known Member

    That is beautiful! And I understand your feeling. I didn’t even take any pictures of anything for a very long time. So, yes I get it.
    One step at a time.
     
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  4. Barry

    Barry Well-Known Member

    I get it too. I still can't watch tv shows we used to watch and laugh together at. One day, one step at a time.
     
  5. Liley773

    Liley773 Well-Known Member

    That's all we have. One day, one step.
     
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  6. Jeffsjohnson

    Jeffsjohnson Active Member

    Here is a related thing that happened to me. I was organizing photos on my computer -- so many good memories - and then hit about a dozen from the last two weeks of her life, when she was literally on death's door. I couldn't look at them. Seeing them just picked at the wound. So I asked a friend to put them in a new folder called "dont look at these until youre ready." So now I can look freely at the wonderful life we had, and focus on that, and just avoid the new folder. Much better for my heart.
     
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  7. Liley773

    Liley773 Well-Known Member

    That's a wonderful idea. Thank you.
     
  8. RLC

    RLC Well-Known Member

    That was such a great idea. You can now look at the happy memories without worrying you’ll see the terribly difficult ones. And it’s things like that we need to do to try and move forward. I still have trouble looking at the pictures of our wonderful life. Some days I can some days I can’t look at them at all. We make our own boundaries and take each day as it comes. I believe it’s things like this that people who haven’t lost someone just don’t even think of. How could they, we didn’t know the impact until it happened.
     
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