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A December message with some music

Discussion in 'Loss of Spouse' started by David Hughes, Dec 22, 2019.

  1. David Hughes

    David Hughes Well-Known Member

    At this time of year I know how extremely hard it is for us to make it through the end of the day and to the next year. I have had many ups and downs since Nadine passed on. Music is the one saving grace for me. I have lost my voice to music, and let those Artists of the World who sing for us or play those instruments to touch us so deeply to our very core.

    Their gift for talking to us through something that you can’t see or touch reaches into us in our time of need we all might have. Who better to help us cry, and miss our dearly loved one. Though I have stepped back for a bit to make it further along my own road of grief, I will take faith that songs of all types is what helps me the most. Tears flow so freely now, for my 47th wedding anniversary was on the 15th.

    I talk to Nadine each day, it comes from my heart. As I look at my sons I see Nadine in them. I am grateful she left me two very special people I know that I will be with Nadine once again one day, until then, my sons have and will get my undivided attention each and every day, for doing that lifts my spirits.

    I make sure to tell them I love them each day, and always talk to them regularly, especially when they seem particularly quiet. Life is hard no matter who you are, rich or poor, or your path in life you take.

    No one has all the answers. How we treat each other is important. But I will not join a pack mentality or be a sheep that is led. I am a person, nothing special, but I will take my own free will with me when I leave this Mortal Coil we call Earth. I hope that I have brightened someone’s outlook on life by my interactions with them.

    For now I wish to list some songs you might want wish to hear. I know we each have our own personal tastes. So listen if you so desire. Some of these songs are emotional in nature, so please forgive me for doing that, but I am only trying to touch your hurt deep inside you.

    I am putting a few extra songs here.

    Over 800 million views



    Over 103 million views



    This is a religious song, so please don’t listen if it bothers you,



    For that void in your life and only thoughts for the one we loved so much



    A beautiful song by two talented singers.



    Over 130 million views. Some songs evoke those feelings we might hold deep inside us at some time in our lives.

    https://youtu.be/sIaT8Jl2zpI

    Over 452 million views. For the loss of the you were in love with.

    https://youtu.be/FTXLhEk3J8E

    Soothing music for you to relax with day or night

    https://youtu.be/EzP8GR-cUME

    Looping violin and artistic dance to admire

    https://youtu.be/H36OiPsjmjQ

    For the loss of someone young. We feel for those who are hurt.

    https://youtu.be/HneFCDaeQNY

    Depression can touch anyone.

    https://youtu.be/BuEM7t-nw4s

    For the loss of someone who served. (This one touches me personally https://www.virtualwall.org/dd/DewRE01a.htm ) I served with him and attended his funeral in South Vietnam. He was the same MOS and a coworker.

    https://youtu.be/9jAtB_UBWh0

    Watch on the left the guy carrying the big fish dancing to the song.

    https://youtu.be/NvgZUrAeaaE

    Sometimes you just need some happy songs with dancing.

    https://youtu.be/7tQIJMXIG1Q

    It is amazing what a skilled person can do with a violin.

    https://youtu.be/VkXUkTc2fw8

    An artist can make a song sound so special.

    https://youtu.be/o61Pn-GS_Ws

    Again the violin speaks to us

    https://youtu.be/EKgQA6-AZzc

    A truly amazing violinist.

    https://youtu.be/g3SSEd2MO7g
     
  2. Billfromwa

    Billfromwa Well-Known Member

    David
    Thank you for the lovely music. What a wonderful gift. Lauren is certainly a talented singer. Reminds me of Adele. Same vocal range. The lyric I believe is repeated over and over. When Janet was on the process of crossing over she repeated those same words “I believe. I believe,over and over again.I have often wondered who she was speaking to.
    Thank you David for the lovely gift.
     
  3. David Hughes

    David Hughes Well-Known Member

    Bill,

    Music is what drives me the most and has always moved me in special ways throughout my life. Bill I know you are feeling so lonely without Janet, as I am without Nadine. Sure our heart is lost and broken to the one we loved so much in life.

    Many days I have just sat in stone silence and listened to so many artists who sing and play their feelings out with their heart on their sleeves as they try to reach us listeners. Remember back as you enjoyed all those concerts, all those special nights as everyone around you was so into those performing for us all. We would cheer, we would smile with joy, and even perhaps cry as their movements touched us deeply.

    I don't have to be convinced there is an ever-after, I know there is. One day in the future our heart will once again be whole as we are joined with all those who were lost in our lives and once again come together with them all. Our heart will once again be whole and all the missing pieces will come together in eternal peace.

    I truly hope that one day each of us will once again be as one. God Bless and I was always a believer, my belief was built as a young child and never waned in life, even at the lowest points in my life. Sure I have had many painful experiences, but with my faith in God, he has helped move me from one day of life to the next.

    For those who don't believe I hope that one day their eyes will be opened. Peace to one and all.