Lost my soul mate.

Hi, I recently lost my girlfriend who was also my best friend. I don't know how to cope without her. She kept me strong, calm, focused. I was going to ask her to be my wife. we had plans for the rest of your life together and now she is gone. she was the stronger one of the two of us. She would know what to say to me to calm me down. My support network is gone, my friend is gone. my life is gone.

I can't stop crying and hurting myself. I just don't know how to cope with this pain.

 

Sorry to hear about your girlfriend. While nobody can know exactly how you feel, all of us here are grieving. Hopefully, you will find this site helpful - even if just to vent.

 

Sorry to hear of your loss, i too am going through the crying all the time, please reach out get counciling to help with healing, I started it kinda helps .

 

Xunlowlx, I am so sorry you are going through this. I too lost the love of my life, my soulmate, my everything on July 28th 2018. It seems like nothing matters anymore, like you're all alone. But remember one thing...You are not alone! I have found people on this website are going through the same thing I am going through. Although its a rough time, talk with some people on here and listen to what they say. They are going through the same thing you are going through. They feel the pain you feel. I wish I could say it gets easier, but for me its that I am learning to cope better. I guess that is a start.
May I ask what happened? If you're not up to talking about it right now, I understand.

 

Talking to others have helped a little but not a whole lot. She suddenly got ill and the infection was too strong, the doctors couldn't control it and they did try everything they could but she was too weak.

 

Lost my spouse two weeks and two days ago, lost my mama two weeks before that to the day ! If anybody knows pain I do. It's so hard to be here in this house with both of them gone. I know we're not created to live forever but we just got married last April and just celebrated our one year anniversary then she was gone. Tears come EVERY DAY ! It doesn't take much to get them started. But I know life does go on it's just so so different. Don't give up. Talk to me anytime !!!

 

Tina.... I know you are probably tired of hearing it becauseI am too but i am so sorry for both of our losses.
My husband died of lung/bone/brain cancer 3 1/2 months ago. It is terrible and I hate life without him.

 

Haven't been in here for a while, but I'm finding myself awake, thinking of her, missing her more than ever.

 

Does it get easier to deal with it? Sometimes I feel guilty and think I should have gotten a second opinion when I felt her doctors were not aggressive enough in treating her pneumonia and appetite loss. She didn't eat and got weaker. I can't sleep thinking about it

 

In my case, I am learning how to cope, it's never easy living my life without her. There is always the what if I did this or that. I have those moments too. I just think of what she would want me to be doing, she wouldn't want me being down, she wouldn't want to stop living my life.I still talk to her, I even write to her still, I still cry at night thinking of her.

Talking helps me a lot. If you ever need to talk, I. Here.

 

Thank you for responding. I have a long way to go. I still have not accepted she is really gone. I am afraid of night time when everything is quiet and I am left with my thoughts. When I am at work I can pretend she is just home but I can't deny it when I come home to a quiet house.

 

I can't say it gets better or easier because when people that to me, I just got angry, but you learn to cope with the hurt and manage it in different ways.
I completely understand that, I worked all the the time because it distracted me from thinking of everything. I still work long hours to keep me distracted because that was part of me coping.

 

It is night time here now. Her kids, and I think of them as mine too, are here now. I am grateful for their presence but it makes me miss her more. They remind me of her so much and it makes me want to cry. I know they are hurting too...

 

I understand that, it's so good to be around people, places that remind you of them but at the same time it's hard.

 

Its almost the one year mark for me - husband passed away Feb 2; We were teen-age sweethearts, then went our own ways, reunited afterk 23 yrs - married almost 30 - love of my life - Im in a "funk"

 

I can't imagine how hard that is. It's two years in May since I lost my partner. One thing that keeps me going it knowing they would want me to be happy, and not stop doing the things I love. It's hard to get into that mindset, each day is a new challenge.

 

These days I feel I could burst! I have no friends that know about us. I have no one to talk to. Pretending everything is fine is making me crazy. We are Asian. Our country frowns on lesbian unions so we decided not to tell friends and family. I envy those of you who can say openly you lost your partner. I can't. I can only say my best friend died but I cannot grieve in public even when i am broken inside.

 

If you ever need to talk just message me, I'm a good listener, well so I've been told.