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I suck at coping

Discussion in 'Coping After a Sudden Loss' started by Blank.space, Nov 13, 2020.

  1. Blank.space

    Blank.space New Member

    Well. My stepmom passed unexpectedly 2 months ago. My real parents weren’t really ever in my life so my stepmom was the closest I ever had to a mom. I had depression before this happened but god that just made it so much worse. For weeks I just felt like killing myself and I’d spend hours crying and screaming and trying to call her. As a student I started failing all my classes and even now 2 months later im finding it so difficult to get my life back together. Thanksgiving was always our holiday, we’d always go and visit her family together. I miss her so much and life just feels impossible right now. Thanks for reading.
     
  2. ainie

    ainie Well-Known Member

    So sorry for the loss of your dear stepmom. Only 2 months ago means you are still in that very hard first stage of shock, sudden crying, disbelief. Eat, sleep, go outside. Do you have others for support? Or maybe a counsellor. Keep coming back to read and to vent. Unfortunately everyone here has lost someone they dearly loved and know what you are going through.
     
  3. JMD

    JMD Well-Known Member

    I am so sorry for your loss. Right now you are trying to survive your grief day by day. It can be one minute at a time sometimes. Eat, drink, try to sleep and reach out to others. You will find many others here who understand what you are feeling, and it is all normal. Feels awful a lot of the time. Be proud of yourself if you accomplish one thing each day. Holidays are tough times for us. Thanksgiving was our holiday too - my husband lost his battle with lung cancer in July. I will say a prayer for you to have peace.