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Where do I belong?

Discussion in 'Loss of Spouse' started by TSMITH745, Sep 8, 2025.

  1. TSMITH745

    TSMITH745 New Member

    Does anyone else feel completely lost? I don't feel like I belong anywhere anymore after losing my partner. Our lives only connected 6 short years ago after knowing one another for over 30 years. We have lots of friends and family in common and I have received support from everyone. But still at any kind of gathering I feel off and lost that I cannot connect.
     
  2. chapeauchin

    chapeauchin New Member

    I lost my husband of 36+ years just 2 months ago, I feel completely lost, too. After all these years of being part of a couple, it's very hard ot realize that I'm all alone. My life partner has gone. It's very, very hard. I feel your pain.
     
  3. Chris M 2000

    Chris M 2000 Well-Known Member

    I am sorry for your loss.
    Dear TSmith745.
    Of course you feel completely lost. You have lost a large part of your life and you might say a large part of yourself. You have had 6 years of relating to others as part of a couple. Everything has changed for you and you will not feel the same way you did before. The walk of grief is not a quick walk. It is a slow process of adjusting and it takes effort to work through all the changes you are facing, but you can do it. Give yourself time and be good to yourself. Remind yourself of your worth. You were created by God, He loves you, and He values you as a person even without your partner. At these gatherings try to focus on others and on trying to uplift them. It can help take your focus off yourself and help you connect better. My friend who also lost her son about the same time we lost our son to suicide, would always call me to encourage me when the grief became unbearable for her. By helping me, she recognized she was also helping herself.
    Jesus is the light of the world. He is life. Look to Him and he can shine his light on your path to help you see the path to follow in your new circumstances. He helped me when no one else could. He rescued me and saved me from wanting to end my life. He comforted me. He strengthened me. Try to read some scriptures. They can give you wisdom and direction for you life.
    We care about you. Continue to post your feelings. We understand because we have also suffered great grief.
    Chris