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Discussion in 'Loss of Spouse' started by Helena Beatriz, May 4, 2022.

  1. eyepilot13

    eyepilot13 Well-Known Member

    Thank you for your kind words. GIC is pretty much all I feel like I have these daze
     
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  2. Ceee

    Ceee Well-Known Member

    The new techs are fine and they do their job but I feel no connection with them. I sit for four hours in silence staring into space with painful needles stuck in my arm.[/QUOTE]

    I am so sorry you and others have to be alone at times like that. I wish there was a magic transporter where your friends on here could pop in to sit with you. HUGS, we are there with you in spirit.
     
  3. Ceee

    Ceee Well-Known Member

    Hi Ceee, like yourself I don't have anyone near to receive real hugs, now I got used to and while in meditation or yoga forget of my solitude. Here are many hugs to you, when you read this just imagine receiving hugs from a friend that you never seen or talk, the power of the mind keeps us strong!! Helena[/QUOTE]

    Thank you for those HUGs, i do appreciate them. May many heartfelt HUGs come back to you
    C
     
  4. eyepilot13

    eyepilot13 Well-Known Member

    I am so sorry you and others have to be alone at times like that. I wish there was a magic transporter where your friends on here could pop in to sit with you. HUGS, we are there with you in spirit.[/QUOTE]
    Itz like I have no one in my daily life, except my son and he is working VERY hard to help himself. All I can do is help myself but it is so hard even with meds and therapy. It's like Valerie's death triggered all these childhood traumas I have had since my father abandoned me through CancerDeath that never healed. I had no friends as a kid, just horrible people who put me down and ostracized me. I so desperately want to accept all this and heal., I don't know how to...
     
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  5. DEB321

    DEB321 Well-Known Member

    George,

    Although this is no substitute for a real hug, sending you the BIGGEST!!! virtual hug all the way from TUTTAMVILLE. There is no need for you to apologize for anything!!!, TUTTAM!!! Feelings are feelings. You can't help how you feel. I'm glad you tell it like it is, never sugarcoating anything. Being honest about our feelings is so important. Otherwise, I think our feelings would eventually cause us to explode, like a balloon with too much air in it.

    You've been through way more sh*t than most of us, and you keep on doing your best to survive in this over the top, crazy !!!, f*cked up!!! world, we've been thrown into, TUTTAM!!! As Lou mentioned, I remember when you had to move the first time, all the sh*t you had to go through, getting rid of so much stuff, having to go through Valerie's belongings... It SUCKED!!! BIG!!! TIME!!!, TUTTAM!!!, but, and this is another one of those really BIG!!! BUTS!!!, you did it!!!

    On the two year anniversary of Bob's death, I thought I was going to be able to finally wash that blanket our daughter had made for what would turn out to be Bob's last birthday, the one with all the pictures of family vacations on it, and put it into the linen closet. I tried really hard. I went into the guest bedroom to get it, but, and this is another one of those really BIG!!! BUTS!!!, I couldn't even pick it up. The floodgates opened... I don't have half the sh*t in my life, that you have in yours, and I couldn't even wash that one blanket... You've managed to pack up more of Valerie's things, and bring them to Goodwill. This IS!!! a major accomplishment.

    Grieving is exhausting, and can easily suck all the life right out of us if we let it. You're doing the very best you can to take care of yourself. Although I doubt you'll believe this, I'm amazed by your strength. You continue to battle Mr. G on a daily basis, refusing to give up. Just my two cents, take it or leave it, I'll be here for you no matter what, but I wish you weren't so hard on yourself. If sleeping and ice chips are all you look forward to right now, then allow yourself to sleep when you can, and enjoy those ice chips.

    Just the fact you're still coming here, sharing your feelings with all of us, is a step forward. You are the UGW!!!, TUTTAM!!!

    I know nothing I said can make you feel any better... So, just know I'm here for you, always will be...

    Sending you lots more hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace, all the way from TUTTAMVILLE, Debanator and Skye Queen
     
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  6. DEB321

    DEB321 Well-Known Member

    Dancing Lobster Loustarino,

    LOVE!!! your attitude, TUTTAM!!!

    Sending you lots of hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. Debster and Skyester
     
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  7. DEB321

    DEB321 Well-Known Member

    George,

    Although I sound like a parrot, like dancing Loustarino, I LOVE!!! "hopium,!!!. TUTTAM!!! Even when you think you're creativity is zapped out of you, you're still one of the most creative persons I know.

    Lots more hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace, all the way from TUTTAMVILLE, DEB & Skye (Variety is the spice of life)
     
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  8. DEB321

    DEB321 Well-Known Member

    Helena,

    I haven't been around as much as I used to be either. It's so nice visiting our GIC "family" this afternoon, and "seeing" you here. TGW are the absolute best!!!, TUTTAM!!! I believe we were all meant to "meet," to help each other through the very darkest days of our lives...

    Sending you, Yogi and Sami, lots of hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB & Skye
     
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  9. Helena Beatriz

    Helena Beatriz Well-Known Member

    Approximately a year ago I started posting my pen and ink creations, lately I haven't drawn anything, today I would like to share one of my old Spring drawing, hopefully I'll continue again sharing my drawings or doodlings with you my friends that never judge me. Helena


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  10. RLC

    RLC Well-Known Member

    Helena, Your creations were all so beautiful and appreciated I’m confident one day you’ll feel up to drawing again and sharing. This journey we’re all on is exhausting and that’s putting it mildly as you know. I haven’t been on GIC much for a while now and I’m trying to catch up as best I can. I’m afraid it’s feeling a little overwhelming at the moment. There’s no specific reason I’ve been MIA except I wasn’t feeling it. Just going through another time of keeping to myself feels right at the moment. I’m afraid I can’t get your attachment to open, but I’m sure it’s beautiful. Just do what feels right for you Helena. We’re all here for each other through thick and thin. Never ever any judgement. Robin
     
  11. DEB321

    DEB321 Well-Known Member

    Helena,

    I couldn't have said it any better then Robin did. As Robin, said, "just do what feels right for you." We'll be here for you always, so glad to see you, no matter how long it's been since the last time you stopped by to visit.

    Unfortunately, I couldn't get your attachment to open either, but just knowing you wanted to share one of your spring drawings with us, has me smiling BIG!!! TIME!!!

    Sending you, Yogi and Sami lots of hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace, DEB
     
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  12. JackieH1029

    JackieH1029 Active Member

    Itz like I have no one in my daily life, except my son and he is working VERY hard to help himself. All I can do is help myself but it is so hard even with meds and therapy. It's like Valerie's death triggered all these childhood traumas I have had since my father abandoned me through CancerDeath that never healed. I had no friends as a kid, just horrible people who put me down and ostracized me. I so desperately want to accept all this and heal., I don't know how to...[/QUOTE]
    Reach out. I am here in spirit and happy to chat over a real tel line.
     
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  13. eyepilot13

    eyepilot13 Well-Known Member

    Reach out. I am here in spirit and happy to chat over a real tel line.[/QUOTE]
    Thank you!
     
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  14. Helena Beatriz

    Helena Beatriz Well-Known Member

    Dear Deb, Thanks so much for your always welcoming hugs and also remembering my pets. Very happy to know you also have a new pet companion.
    Deb, thanks a lot for your always welcoming hugs, I do appreciate your kindness. Take care and I'm also sending you my love and hugs your way. Helena
     
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  15. eyepilot13

    eyepilot13 Well-Known Member

    Thank you![/QUOTE]
    I always prefer talking over a real phone line! I suck at texting!
     
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  16. Helena Beatriz

    Helena Beatriz Well-Known Member

    Here is my Wednesday pen and ink drawing

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  17. DEB321

    DEB321 Well-Known Member

    Helena,

    This is so very beautiful... A perfect way to brighten up a rainy afternoon...

    Thank you so much for sharing your very pretty pen and ink drawing with us, your GIC "family."

    As always, sending you, Yogi and Sami, lots of hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB
     
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  18. DEB321

    DEB321 Well-Known Member

    Deb,

    It doesn't sound crazy at all, TUTTAM!!! I love snuggling up with Skye... Every night I ask Skye if she wants to do "couch cuddles." No matter where she is, she runs right over to the couch, jumps up, and lies down, snuggling next to me, sometimes her head in my lap. She is too big to be a lap dog, but tries to squeeze herself onto my lap all the time, lol... We tune out of reality, and into Netflix together... Monday I dropped her off for a day at the doggie spa. Her fur is so soft and silky. There is nothing better than cuddling up next to a clean, fresh smelling, soft, silky dog, TUTTAM!!! And you thought you sounded crazy, lol!!!

    I'm a little less lonely, and lots happier, now that I've adopted my furry little angel... I'm glad that you get daily hugs from your cats. It's no substitution for the hugs we got from the one true love of our lives, or from family and friends, but, and this is another one of those really BIG!!! BUTS!!!, we have to find love wherever we can. I don't believe we're meant to be alone, and lonely in this world.

    You and I are lucky to have furry family members who love us so deeply, and ask for so little in return. Better stop here, before I really begin to ramble, lol... Bob would definitely have something funny to say about this if he could... F*CK!!! you Mr. G., TUTTAM!!!

    Love is eternal... We might not be able to have our spouses here with us (physically), but they're always watching over us... Whenever I feel Bob's presence, a calm, peaceful feeling surrounds me, the next best thing to being able to have a real hug from him... Life has become so very bittersweet, TUTTAM!!!

    Sending you and your cats, lots of hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB & Skye
     
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  19. eyepilot13

    eyepilot13 Well-Known Member

    The furry friend was just what you needed! I'm happy for you the DEBbest of DEBZ
     
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  20. DEB321

    DEB321 Well-Known Member

    George,

    Thanks... I believe Skye and I were meant to be together, TUTTAM!!! The bond between us continues to get stronger every day. We can communicate with each other without saying a word... Bob would have loved her just as much as I do. F*CK!!! you, Mr. G.!!!, TUTTAM!!! There is NO way I'm going to let that a$$ destroy my evening!!!, TUTTAM!!!

    As always, sending you lots of hugs and love, wishing you peace, all the way from TUTTAMVILLE, DEBbest of DEBZ (lol!!!), and Skye Queen
     
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