Valentine is Dead!

I would love to hear your thoughts when you’re ready, Deb.
It’s such an interesting journey. Death and life, self-discovery.
~B

 

Just wanted to share....

 

That's so beautiful, so true. To my valentine, Jack, I say to you these words. Thank you for posting this. Karen

 

Chad, Karen just said what I feel. That is
beautiful , moving, & true. Linda's spirit
is with me day & night, and forever. Lou

 

So beautiful! Thank you for sharing. That’s how my heart feels. For you Ron. ❤️

 

Born late in '65 I bridge the generations!

 

Chad,

Thank you for sharing this... It's so beautiful... It made me teary eyed, so bittersweet.., but and this is another one of those really BIG BUTS!!!, all of life is so bittersweet. It's something I need to get used to.

As always, sending you and Fergie hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Chad,

P.S. I just took a picture with my iPhone and saved it. Thanks again for sharing.

Sending you and Fergie more hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

George,

I hope your finger already has, or has almost made, a full recovery. I've been thinking about you, haven't seen you around too much, but and this is another one of those really BIG BUTS!!!, no need to respond!!! I just want you to know I'm thinking about you.., hoping you have at least one reason to LMSO today...

As always, sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Hey The Deb... You are right. Just can't summon the energy to do anything. Finger seems better. It is 9 degrees again. Worst driving home from dialysis yesterday! Slick snow ice covered roads everyone going to fast too much traffic. Very dark. I am not doing good...

 

George,

I'm glad that your finger is getting better, but wish so much you were doing better in all ways!!!, TU!!! Nasty weather just makes everything feel so much worse!!!, TU!!! As I said to Karen the other day, no words of wisdom, no advice... Valerie's death..., dealing with Mr.Grief, that seemingly endless roller coaster ride of emotions with way too many downs, not enough ups, and no way to stop the ride..., dialysis, nasty weather, etc. etc. etc., ..., just SUCKS!!! BIG TIME!!!, TU!!!

Wish there was something I could say to make you feel even the slightest bit better, but and this is another one of those really BIG BUTS!!!, I know this is impossible. Sadly, we're all being held captive in Mr. Grief's twisted amusement park, plus you have all those added "extras" that must make it even more difficult!!!, TU!!! to deal with Mr. Grief. It SUCKS!!!, BIG TIME!!!, TU!!!

Please!!! don't feel like you have to respond!!! I know how much energy it can take me to do even the smallest things when I'm stuck at the bottom of that twisted roller coaster ride of emotions... Just take care of yourself the very best you possibly can. We'll be here for you whenever you want/need to "talk."

Sending you zillions of hugs, lots of love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Thank you!

 

Thinking about you too George. The song “bad to the bone”. And “I’m bad I’m nation wide”. Bad being a paradox for words like resilient relentless unstoppable determination and never say die ect. Keep on trucking Bro. Gary

 

George,

Gary got this one right!!!, TU!!! You ARE TUGW!!!, TU!!!

Hope you have a better day tomorrow...

Sending lots more hugs and love your way, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

I keep on trying. This weekend marks ONE YEAR.

 

One year SUCKS BIG TIME!!! as our
friend, The Deb, would say. At one year,
I started drinking more & getting MORE
depressed. I quit 2 years ago. It's been 3
years since Linda's death. All I can tell
you, George, is to try to get past this
weekend, see your son, & his GF. It DOES
get better................Lou

 

I agree with Lou, anniversaries Suck.
I can only imagine one year feels like a long time without Valerie by your side.
Do you plan to mark it with some sort of ritual?
You’re doing great, George. ~B

 

Bernadine,

Bob's birthday would have been in March, about three weeks prior to his death on April 11, 2021, at 3:45 a.m. I'm dreading this day... I'm teary eyed just thinking about it. One of my very closest friends from "home," is worried about me, and wants me to visit her in April for as long as I want to. I'm still not able to go "home," I know I'm still not strong enough. I have to think, "baby steps..."

Somehow I know I will make it through March and April. I keep thinking about what Lou just said to George, that "IT DOES GET BETTER..." I also keep thinking about some really good advice Lou gave us awhile ago, that sad anniversaries are ONLY!!! one day. I'm going to try to keep all of this in mind as these sad anniversaries are just around the corner. I'm going to need every bit of strength I have to keep Mr Grief from suffocating me in sadness...

I like what you asked George. I'm thinking maybe I should plan to mark these dates with some sort of ritual. I think Patti once said, or maybe it was another one of TGW, or even a GW who hasn't posted in a long time, that said she made a small birthday cake on the anniversary of her spouse's death. I'm not into baking these days, sometimes just opening up a can of soup zaps me of what little energy I have left, but I'm going to think about other things I can do to mark these very sad dates. Thank you for getting me to think about this.

As always, sending you and Maggie lots of hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

George, I remember the 1st year anniversary of Jack's passing. It's been 3 months since that time. All I can say is it "SUCKS", as Deb would say. To me it was the hardest of all holidays. After the one year mark I feel different, but not better. It's still unbelievable he's gone. All my life I've had trouble letting go of anything and I'm wondering if I will ever accept and let go of Jack not being here. But, that's me. Everyone's grief is different and I hope you get through the weekend okay. The one year mark is special in some kind of horrific way. Sorry to say that. Take care, Karen

 

George, I'm really sorry of said my last sentence. For some reason weird thoughts come out in my speech and e-chats these days. Maybe Mr. Grief has devil horns that make me say odd things. Hum!.