Spouse. Caregiver. Widow. What now?

I’m so sorry for loss of your wife. God is overseeing us through our pain, he is with us always.

 

I wonder if you are still on line here, but I wanted to tell you that as a caregiver myself, I understand your pain and the total loss and despair. Just know that your dear husband would want you to try to find some happiness, perhaps at a church group or something like that. The loneliness is unbearable.

 

Hi, first let me say that I feel for you and that I give you props for repartnering after the loss of your first husband. I'm a widower of 10 years and wish I has that kind of courage.

I was her caregiver for her last 30 months, really longer because though she was working, she really needed to see a doctor and wouldn't. I did what I could to make things easier.

So, yes, after caregiving, the "What now" kicks in. Honestly, during her illness, I started on a list of things that I wanted us to do, which after she passed, I started thinking of things I wanted to do, because I had lots of "shoulda dones" with her and I didn't want the same for myself. I called it my bucketlist. I've done a llot of those things, but the things about buckets are, they can be refilled.

While I was doing all those things, what I didn't know I was doing is, I was reinventing myself. I've done things that she would't believe I did. I would never think I'd ever do them either.

Loss of our spouses changes us, we become another person. The key I've found was to create a new life that they would proud of after having our hearts ripped out, while honoring our old one.

I'm rambling, so I will leave this there.