Single, no children, lost both parents, caregiver and alone at end of life

I want to cry for you. I understand your heart. I deeply empathize with your losses and resulting situation. The gaping hole that is left now after losing your mom, the devotion to caring for her, the loss of such a special closeness in your relationship. It is heart wrenching.
I recently lost my little brother whom I cared for for 12 years. It was sudden. He was developmentally disabled. Our parents have been deceased for years. Now I am alone. It is overwhelming and crushing in moments. I have to tell my self the pain and fog I am in will subside as time passes. But I deeply feel you and your situation. And to know I and others care and hope you will slowly as each day passes find some peace and healing. Love to you.

 

Yes, it does get easier, but it takes work on your part and it takes time. This grief walk is not an easy walk in any way, but don't get discouraged. Hold onto hope.
"Be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might." Jesus is mighty and can bring us through any situation no matter how drastic it is. I am living proof of this. He was my strength when I had no strength. He kept me when I didn't even want to be kept. I just wanted to leave this life.
God will help you if you call on Him. Just ask Him.
Chris

 

I am new here as well. I hate that any of us are experiencing this.

I lost my Dad on Father's day, June 19, 2022, and my Mom about 6 months later in December 2022. Both of my parents suffered from dementia, and passed away due to complications of dementia. I helped my parents with doctor appointments, finances, grocery shopping, etc. I was "blessed" in a weird way. I'm disabled due to health issues, so I didn't have to work. I could focus on them. Unfortunately, after my Dad passed away, my Mom fell and broke her hip. Because of her age and the dementia, surgery wasn't an option. So she became bedridden. I have no siblings, and the family I did have stole from my parents. So I not only had to deal with the loss of my parents, but also legal issues. During this same time frame, I had divorced my now ex due to his drinking and gambling problem. I have no children. The remaining family members are all busy, and really don't understand what I'm going through. Neither does my "best" friend. I feel like I have no one. Because I truly don't. I don't know who I am anymore. I have lost myself so many times over the years. First, my identity as a successful career woman due to my health issues. Also I had two main hobbies where I thought I had friends, but in reality they weren't my friends. I have moved to a new state hoping that a change of scenery would help. But I'm still grieving. I know there is no time limit to grief. And I did allow myself to feel the pain. But I'm still lost. I want to get out and make new friends, maybe meet a nice guy, but I'm so scared of getting burned by people that I'm still rotting in my apartment. I have a wonderful dog, but she's not a great emotional support dog. When I start crying, she hides in her kennel. So yes my emotional support dog needs an emotional support dog. But she's a great companion, and gives me a reason to get out of bed. I have seen a neuropsychologist and therapist. I'm on antidepressants, but I really don't think they're helping because this is just a part of life. I don't know how to get unstuck. I was very blessed with a wonderful Dad and Mom. We were so close. Losing them has totally wrecked me.

 

I meant to include that I'm in my 50s so going through a "midlife crisis" at the same time. I know how short life is and that is part of my aggravation with myself not getting out there and living my life.

 

I am sorry for your losses. Sending you hugs and love.
Chris

 

I understand what you are going through as well. I am also single with no kids. My dad and my mom were getting older when the last company worked for moved out of state so they wanted me around more to help them. My dad died in 2013 and I looked after my mom since then. She had swallowing problems and over the last few years they got worse and lost so much weight she was just skin and bones. Now she has recently passed away in August, and I am all alone. It is hard to get the energy to get out of bed in the morning. The house now feels empty without her in as I alone and is really quiet as Don Y indicated. Hopefully, we will all get better over time even though I am not sure.