My dad, my best friend died out of nowhere

My name is Brooke and I live in western North Carolina. My father, at age 57, passed away on October 6th of 2024. It was about a week after Hurricane Helene. I had talked with him several times. He was ok until he started experiencing severe nosebleeds. He went to the hospital 3 different times because they couldn’t control the bleeding. On October 6th- he passed. And I found him. I’m 28 years old and I found my father dead. He fell asleep and died. I am wondering if there is anyone else out there that can relate to me or talk to me about this?

 

Hi, Bookleen. I am so sorry that you lost your father so unexpectedly. I found our 28 year old son dead due to suicide. I am sorry that you have experienced such a tragedy and shock at so young an age.
It probably will take awhile for the reality of this to sink in. At first I was relieved for our son that he was no longer suffering the extreme emotional distress he had been going through. But after a while I realized what a great loss I was going to have to suffer because of losing him. losing him.
There will probably be a lot of questions that will be going through your mind. One might be if you are going crazy. No, you are not. If you are like most people going through grief, it will be difficult to think clearly and you will be misplacing things alot. Another will be people expecting you to "go on" and "get over it". You can tell from your own experience that it is almost impossible for anyone who has not had to suffer a great loss to understand what you are going through. We know and we care.
Please let me know what you are struggling through. I want to support you in any way I can.
I also live in western NC. Sometime when you feel like talking to someone, maybe we could get together if we are not too far away from each other.
My last thought is that only God can really understand and help you. People will try to be kind to you for awhile, but grief does not last for awhile. It is a walk that requires work to get through. Jesus can help you. He cried when His best friend died, He knows what pain is.
I love you,
Chris