Missing my friend

Donna, it's taken me years , but
sometimes I can be alone. I just
ate dinner alone at my favorite
Mexican bar, not drinking,
feeling calm. Then, I walked to
an outside place, saw 2 women
I knew, & jumped right in with
them, dancing....Lou Travolta

 

You Go!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Mr. Twinkle Toes! I keep tryin' me Bro!

 

Hey there I hear you! 18 months in I still feel empty and alone. Valerie my love of 34 years died of FNG CANCER! in 2021. It is hard to build a new life. Keep keeping on! GIC is a great support network!

 

Right, I'll never give up GIC!!

 

That's Lou Travolta to you!

 

Of course... sorry for any confusion!

 

That's OK, Bro Lombardo.
It's just that "Twinkle Toes"
ruins my reputation, with my
female dance partners . I hope
I'm more like John Travolta, than
a ballerina... John's older bro. Lou

 

Godfather Lou, role model, mentor to many I love your reference to the animal kingdom in regards to companionship and the feeling of belonging. When dancing at the disco would you consider doing Disco Duck solo in honor of Brother George? It would not only honor Bro Geo it would honor the Dux family that has been kind to our younger brother by giving him companionship and a safe happy place. Gary

 

Lou, I can tell from your more recent posts that you are ready to stick your toe into the water or, more appropriately, your toes onto the dance floor. I have to say that the first time I saw your name when I became a member, I thought about the movie Saturday Night Fever. Being old like me, I'm sure you remember the music and John Travolta's dance moves. I still love the music from my now distant youth and watched a replay of that movie just a few nights ago. I don't think it will tarnish John Travolta's reputation for you to hit the dance floor. Using the toe analogy, hopefully you will not stub your toes or step on hers.

It is natural, but unfair to you, to mention the question of guilt (your word, not mine). I would suggest to you that guilt is a self-imposed punishment for step five in the five-step grief process, namely acceptance. Acceptance can be twisted to mean "moving on", "it's all in the past", and other such descriptions with negative connotations. But it is really just the acceptance of reality. Ask yourself this simple question, "Would I feel dishonored or forgotten if things had been reversed and Linda had found some happiness after four and a half years of grief?" I think your answer will be enlightening. Your posts have made it so clear how much you loved Linda and still do. Again following your own words, Linda made you "promise to be healthy and even happy". It seems to me that it's high time for you to respect her wishes with a clear conscience after four and a half years. Jeff.

 

Jeff, your kind words came at a
perfect time. Just came home st
1am, my time , after a Saturday
Night Fever of my own. I'm way
past my feelings of guilt. Whether I'll have another
intimate relationship is a
different story. Tonight, I
danced with the 1st woman who
got me started on the dance floor. She had to sit frequently
bc she was tired,& told me to
dance with other women, which
I did. Most of the dances were
fast, but a widow friend asked
ME to dance a slow one---and it
felt good. Linda loved the movie,
Grease, when Travolta was
older in real life, but the dance
music took place in a high
school. Linda got me to watch
the movie several times and
listen to the soundtrack, several
times. I could feel the joy. Lou

 

Gary , once again, you provided
me with another LMSO,
laugh my sad off . I would be
honored to sing Disco Duck to
our UGW ( Ultimate Grief
Warrior)! Lou T.

 

Disco Lou I will no longer sully you with facetious nomenclature. I like BroGar's appendage Disko Duk!

 

Bro Lombardo, I danced 'til
after midnight last night, to
every song, of the 50s&60s era ...Other times , it's the
80s music, great disco dance
music. The song which gets
everyone out on the dance
floor , fits us Grief Warriors:
I Will Survive, sung by
Gloria Gaynor. I play these
songs on my Smart Phone and
practice my dance moves in my
apartment , so I'm ready to dance in public . My female
dance partners sometimes ask
me to dance, and I never refuse.
If I see a woman dancing by
herself, I'll dance alongside her
without saying a word. We both
smile, and sometimes
clasp our hands together, and
walk away, waiting for the next
song, where different people
feel the beat, and want to dance.
Lousterino