Loss

Been 3
years and can't get past it

 

Hi imtriton1,

I don't know the circumstances of your grief, but I really feel like we don't get 'past' these things - in the sense that we'll cross some threshold and be on the other side of it one day.
Instead, I feel like the grief evolves over time and goes from being intolerable to somehow being easier to manage. I'm not as consumed by it as I was in the acute stages. I'm in my 4th year of loss and I have good and bad days still. Today was not a good day, with triggers popping up everywhere. Christmas is around the corner and the stores are filling up with Xmas merchandise and it's in your face, no matter what you do.
Memories of the past hit today, reminding me that I can never get those moments back. Life changed drastically and adjusting to it has been a struggle. I am sure you can relate.
Wishing you peace.