Reading through all of your stories makes me glad I am here. My Ron had a heart attack at hone on May 14th, 2021, had surgery May 18th, came through it with flying colors, had a stroke and brain bleed on May 19th, He held on until June 26th when he passed away from cardiac arrest and respiratory failure. I didn't make it to the emergency in time, he passed just minutes before I got there (he was transported from the nursing home, I got a call at 8:10, to let me know he was on his way to emergency, another call as I was backing out of the driveway, the third call while driving to let me know he was in emergency and they were doing CPR, the final call, to say he had died came as I was at the light to turn into the hospital). I ran into emergency like a wild woman, a Chaplin came and got me, took me back to where Ron was, gave me tissues, told me to take as much time as I needed. I wanted so much for him to open his eyes, smile and tell me it was ok. I was amazed at how peaceful he looked, how calm. Knowing all he had been through( feeding tube, respirator, triple by-pass, stroke, a lot of meds, brain bleed, stint in his neck)I knew in my heart he was at peace, my mind just hasn't accepted it yet. We had 45 years together, 38 of them married. He was my rock when my Dad passed, was with me when my Mom passed, held me when our dog we both adored passed. I relied on him for so much. We didn't have kids, his parents, brother had all died before him. We were basically loners, did everything together from sitting on the porch watching a thunder storm, to fussing over what movie to watch. We were an older couple, met when I was 30, he was 36, married at 36, and 41( his birthday is in Oct. we were married in August 1982). I celebrated what would have been our 39th anniversary, bought myself a small cake, some ice cream, and Baileys Irish Cream. Talked to him, got out wedding photos, cried until I couldn't anymore. I have a small memorial set up with his ashes, the medal from the eye bank( I donated his eyes), his obituary, and framed photos of him at different stages of his life, and photos of us together. I still cry at the most inopportune times, talking to the financial planner, the funeral director about prepaying for my funeral expenses, the young men that came today to clean the gutters. I don't sleep more than a few hours a night, have lost about 15 lbs. I pace, going from room to room, looking for something to clean, rearrange, boxes to go through, anything to stay busy. Days aren't as bad as the nights, they are killers for me. Sorry for rambling, feels good to get some of this out. Thanks for listening. Carole
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