I’m sure you have all heard this story before. I too, lost my father when he was only 49 years old. The unexpectedness look a toll on all of us as an immediate family. April 6th, 2020. So fresh, so much hurt and pain, feeling lost. Small triggers here and there , feeling those waves of emotions, yet, staying strong. Realizing that the world just doesn’t stop in the midst of trauma. Young in my career, working through a pandemic. Having a teenage sister and an older brother to cope with helps. Seeing my mom crying always breaks me. The common question. “How are you?”, “I could only imagine the pain .” The only thing I can do is take it day by day. sincerely, one lost soul.
BlackMamba, So very sorry for the loss of your father. The picture of you both in the boat is a very good one. I too lost my dad in life. The loss of our dads will trouble us forever. Dads are so irreplaceable. So true grief is one of such a large unknown. We will cry, we will be so lonely without him, so sad, and hope that time will help us overcome our sadness. This isolation we all face is one none of us what tomorrow will bring or how we will face it. Sure I have a step-brother and two sisters, but sadly my mom passed two years after day. In between that time I had been treated for depression. I had let myself not listen to my heart and seek help. By the time I did it was my wife, who has since passed from cancer, to a doctor and a psychiatrist. She, and they saved my life. I hope you will allow yourself to feel this pain, cry when you need to, and if your body starts to tell you can no longer do it alone, seek help. Yes, our soul moves through time with each of us. We might hear thoughts to ourselves that we actually should let others know. Never, never believe you are alone. Even in isolation, you have a phone, you have the internet, and you have found new people to talk with. So take each day with caution, but please watch out for yourself, you are no less important than any one of us. Peace be with you. -david Hope you like this panorama by DSharp
Hi BlackMamba, I know your feelings all too well. I lost my dad on March 17, 2020. He experienced a brief illness which I really thought he would conquer. That was not the case. The dreaded question, “How are you?” is the toughest question. Then, there are those that seem almost horrified to bring up his death or even say his name. The triggers are real! It may be a scent, a song or something that instantly takes you back to a time with him. I hope you are doing well. Don’t be afraid to grieve. One day at a time is all you can do and sometimes it might be minute by minute but you can do it! Better days are ahead! TJ
My heart goes out to you, bro. I lost my father recently, and it was sudden, too. Dads are special, and it feels unfair. I’m treasuring his memories, because even though he is gone, those will live on forever. I think of the kind of man he was, and how I can make him proud by manifesting my favorite things about him in me. I bet your Dad was special, too, and that you’re a lot like him. Hold on to that. It’s a gift. As for the dreaded “How’s it going?” question, I’m now honest. Often, I say, “It was a rough day,” or “Not great, but I’m managing.” I want others to know what I’m feeling because it’s healthy for me to express it, but also because I want to know how they respond. It makes it easier to identify the people who really care. And, worst-case scenario, the people who don’t care will stop asking. One last thing: I’ve gone to therapy for a few years now, and it helps so incredibly much. I cannot recommend it enough. It’s not a magic elixir that fixes 100% of our problems, but if anything can ease the pain by even 10%, it makes all the difference in the world. Best wishes, man, Dave
Hello dear ... here is one lost soul to another .. I lost my father on 5/05/2020. He was my world. I am also trying to cope up . Each day is a challenge. Not being able to take proper care of mom too. Hopefully someday i will be able to come to terms with this . Till then let's tread on. Appy
