Grief quotes of the day

Thank you Lou, Sun might make an appearance at some point today. Your day sounds wonderful. Enjoy time with your friends and the live music! I’d love to join you. Robin

 

Robin, I wish you & all TGW could join
me, too. I write to everyone on GIC, from
the cafe during quiet periods. I just replied
to a new widow, whose husband just died
suddenly from a heart attack, after 37years of marriage. I know she'd like to hear from
you & other GW. Thank you. Lou

 

Wouldn’t that be such a special time. All of us together enjoying your special corner of this country. I can almost picture us there.
I just responded to the widow who just joined right before writing you here. Robin

 

I did have the laughter thread, but it pooped out. Now Gary suggested "Joke of the Day". I like that.

 

I think looking for typo's is stale now since I see many plus my own. It's called 'Brain Fog".
We never missed an episode of Twilight Zone, loved it.

 

One or two is OK too!

 

Deb thank you very much for the LMSO(Laugh my sad off) in regards to me getting bored more often. I’m about halfway through Becoming Radiant by Tom Zuba. I have noticed by your posts in the last couple weeks you are becoming radiant. like How you are getting out and redecorating your home. And feeling like you want to stay there instead of moving. I like the part where Zuba writes set your intention to heal. Then he says I wish I believed I could heal. Followed by I believe I could heal. Then I believe I will heal. And I can heal. Then I am healing. What a powerful concept for a way to progress in our grief journey. Zuba writes don’t take it personal when people abandon us during our grief journey. It’s not us its them with the problem. He goes on to say we have to be the leader/teacher if we value the relationship enough and tell them what we want them to do for us. Honestly I’ve been writing people off in regards to this. It is a very deep wound but the more I think about being abandoned the sicker it makes my mind. I also need a refresher course on forgiveness big time. TUTTAM!!! I’ve been demonizing the evil sisters lately and this is affecting my serenity. I’ve zero contact with them all year but that’s the way I want it anyway. I’m work in progress all the time and ok with it. Thanks to Lou for getting us on board with Zuba with his first book Permission to Mourn. TGW are a treasure trove of helpful information, love, compassion, camaraderie 24/7, fellowship, entertainment, art, health tips, ect. I can’t believe how alone I would be if I didn’t find this site and jump in on all fours. In this moment I love everyone. We are warriors. The Grief Warriors! Sleep tight. Gary

 

Robin,

Since I've been MIA much more of the time, I'm nowhere near caught up. Yours is the very first message I'm reading this morning. Seeing this way beyond adorable picture of Teddy!!!, has me smiling BIG!!! TIME!!!, TUTTAM!!! I have both Maggie and Teddy to shower in love virtually... Please give Teddy, and your daughter's puppy, lots and lots of hugs and love from me...

Wish I could pick Teddy up, cuddle with him in person... Talk over coffee with you in person... I have a love/hate relationship with modern technology. HATE!!! it for so many reasons, but and this is one of those really BIG BUTS!!!, love it because it made our GIC "family" possible. However, if it wasn't for God, I doubt our virtual "family" would have happened. I'm so very grateful to God..., it makes me teary eyed, but only in the very best of ways, for bringing all of us together, to help each other as we continue our multiple daily battles with Mr. Grief. I know I've been saying this lots lately, but and this is another one of those really BIG BUTS!!!, I'm just so amazed by how close our group has become. It's an over the top wonderful, and very comforting feeling...

I always end up getting sidetracked, so back to what I want to say, I'm glad you celebrated a quiet Easter dinner with family, and that it (mostly) went well. This bittersweet thing really SUCKS!!!, TUTTAM!!!, but and this is my last BIG BUT!!! (for now), it beats just over the top sad... You and your family are such fun loving, creative people. I LOVE!!! that you had an egg hunt for Teddy and Slinky!!!, TUTTAM!!! You always come up with such fun ways to celebrate happy times, even if all those happy times are now bittersweet.

Thank you for sharing this way beyond adorable picture of Teddy with us, and for all the smiles...

Hope today Mr. Grief gives you a break, you're able to do the things that make you the happiest.

With lots of hugs and love to you, Teddy, and Slinky too, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Karen, when I was acting like a grouch,
Linda called me a "poopfart", and we'd
both laugh, bc I was! I try not to be now,
and find myself quoting Linda's funny
phrases to make other people laugh. Lou

 

Gary,

Love this message!!!, TUTTAM!!! As always, you "talk" from your heart, sharing words of wisdom with us, a BIG!!! part of why I'm doing so much better now... I've learned so much from you, as you continue to share your very heartbreaking journey (for lack of a better word) with us. You are a true GW!!!, TUTTAM!!! Although Mr. Grief strikes often and without notice, although he wins some of those multiple daily battles, you always pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and get right back into battle mode...

You made me teary eyed, but only in the very best of ways, when you said I'm becoming radiant... Bob is, and always will be, just as Cheryl is, and always will be for you, the driving force behind my determination to find contentment, some kind of happiness, and (hopefully) peace again... I know... I still have a L O N G!!! road ahead of me, but it's comforting to know that you, all of our GIC "family," will be here to comfort me, to "listen," (sometimes) provide me with words of wisdom, as I, just like you, continue to stumble and fall, along this super twisted path!!!, TUTTAM!!!, that not one of us would have chosen to take. It SUCKS!!!

I'm so glad that "Becoming Radiant," is helping you, as much as it's helping me. LOVE!!! Tom Zuba!!!, TUTTAM!!! I gave my copies of "Permission To Mourn," and "Becoming Radiant, to one of my very favorite neighbors, the person who has been taking care of all the household maintenance chores Bob would be taking care of, if he was here. (I'm also learning how to do many of these things myself, with his help, and help from YouTube videos.) The last one of his sisters recently died, and he's struggling BIG!!! TIME!!! (I'm so very grateful for this over the top, very kind, caring neighbor... He truly, has a heart of gold. Neil Young just popped into my mind...) He said he likes the books so much, he is going to buy copies and send them to one of his sons whose daughter died ten years ago, when she was in elementary school.

I LOVE!!! how you're able to reflect upon the issues facing you, tossed along this path, causing you to fall, but are able to tackle them head on, pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and become so much stronger as a person... To repeat, you are a true GW!!! WE CAN & WILL GET THROUGH THIS TOGETHER!!!

I can't say this even half as well as you do, so to repeat what you said, "In this moment I love everyone."

Stopping here, want one more cup of caffeine. I'm so addicted to coffee!!!, TUTTAM!!!, but if this is my worst vice in life, I'm okay with it, lol...

Sending lots of hugs, more love your way, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Karen,

It's good to "see" you this morning. Thanks for the laugh!!! I always can use more of them, TUTTAM!!! Brain fog SUCKS!!!, an unfortunate consequence of life now, but at least we can laugh at our over the top brain fog moments... recognizing we're not crazy, we're just grieving (I think I stole this last phrase from Dr. Wolfelt, but I don't think he would mind.

BTW, Bob and I LOVED!!! "Twilight Zone," one of the all time best shows... Thinking of all those episodes Bob and I watched together is making me teary eyed... Need a tissue, but refuse to let Mr. Grief trash this very pretty, filled with sunshine day... Looking forward to a long, much needed afternoon walk...

As always, sending you and Rambo lots of hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

You're welcome, Gary! I may have
recommended Zuba, but you & Deb
quote him all the time. Do you see his
lectures on You Tube? As you know,
Jonathan Santlofer is like an older
brother I never had, and I emailed him
to thank him for his amazing book. He
replied 2 days later, with a warm, personal
reply, that he was proud to be my brother.
I'm on his email list, and was happy to
see that he's on a book tour for a new
international mystery . I emailed him
again to tell him I'm on GIC. He surprised
me by responding , bc of his busy
schedule. He said GIC was a great idea for
me. His way of dealing with mourning
over Joy's sudden death, is to immerse
himself in writing , in a friend's farmhouse, to be on panels with other
authors, and to embrace life and laughter.
I feel honored that Jonathan ( I call him
by his first name) wrote back to me. Lou

 

Very sad, Rita, but oh so true. Lou

 

Helena, love this! The funny cartoon of
the day! Especially like " kick ass" comment, bc it reminds me of what TGW
want to do to Mr.Grief! Thanks! Lou

 

I promise I won't call you "poopfart Lou". I'm so glad you remember all the funny things Linda said. Maybe put them into a journal in her honor.

 

Karen, you can tease me anytime, and
call be any names you want. Linda did!:
Crazy old coot,Bananas ,but always called
me Sweetie. I find it easier to quote her
funny phrases to both friends and
strangers. I used to write in a journal
when I talked with a grief therapist, but I
don't now. I prefer to "talk" with my
friends on GIC, and to talk & laugh with my
friends. Lou

 

Well, okay but Sweetie is reserved for Linda.

So, Mr. coot I've not been on GW's for a awhile as you know. I do read all the posts and I feel so proud to be a part of this wonderful forum. Everyone is trying so hard to get through this awful journey. I always thought if you are beyond 1 year you should be healed and have moved on, -- not so. I'm 1yr and 1/2 and it's just as hard but in a different sort of way. Move on, where, and when, Hum!.

I've been stuck in grief, it won't go back, it won't go forward I guess you could call it, "Profound Sadness" always there, can't shake it.

I haven't had anything positive to say here with dealing with finances, insurance and storms causing tree damage, "Big Time".

To everyone: They say to express your grief not keep it inside. So, I guess it's part of the healing journey, but I'm not a testimony to that. But, I feel a bonding here on this forum, grievers helping grievers -- newcomers and beyond. You are not only telling your stories you are expressing your daily lives, jokes, paintings, quotes, poems and memories of your soulmates.

Tears and sadness, T&S. We all want Mr. Grief to disappear for the pain is too much. We don't know how the journey will be for each of us, but we have to
get back on that horse.

Chapter from the book Permission to Mourn by Tom Zuba.

The truth is most of us want to get back on that horse. The wild, unpredictable, breathtaking, heart-pounding, invigorating horse called life.
Do you?
Even though you've been knocked off. Knocked off the horse. Even though you've been thrown off and stepped on and trampled and bruised and beaten and broken by the fall and now you haven't a clue.
How to get back on. The horse, Your Life. And to me that is the miracle. That is the shift in perception.

We want to live and enjoy, say yes to getting back on the horse.

There is more to this chapter in his book and it's worth buying for those who don't have a copy. Amazon has it not expensive.

You know guys, all we can do is keep trying each moment, each hour, each day until we see that tiny flicker of light through the tunnel. If anyone here has seen it please share, I'm waiting for it. To me it's a sign of hope.

God bless you all, Karen