Grief quotes of the day

Rita, I was just thinking about what you said months ago. "To realize us in our 70's + years find it a bit more difficult to foresee a brighter better future". I really believe it's true. Thank you Rita for your posts, you do make a difference to all of us and I hope for strength and endurance during this awful journey we all have to bear. Karen

 

Patti, I'm emotional reading this poem. My heart is full of hope. Let us stay in the circle of God's love always, Karen

 

Patty, Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful poem written in 2008 for your beloved Jack!
As always you are in my thoughs and wishing love and peace. Helena

 

Thank you Patti for your beautiful poem. We recognize you as Mother Theresa of TGW. You are the one who picks us up after Mr Grief knocks us down. you take us to the peak of Mr Grief’s roller coaster ride to inspire us with insight of better days to come. I think about you every day knowing God is sustaining you. We love you! Gary

 

Patti I’ve been thinking about your poem again. My home is over 100 years old. Over 30 years ago two women and a man stopped by. They told me they were raised here. I asked them if they wanted to come inside. They said my living room was referred to as the parlor. It was only used for special occasions like weddings and funerals. There was a small brick factory here and they farmed. In 1938 electricity came to the neighborhood. Lately I’ve conjured many memories. In 1989 I got married here. 2001 I got divorced. I’ve been in 4 long term relationships here. I met Cheryl in 2012 and we cohabited in 2014. Until Cheryl’s journey into the afterlife these were the happiest times Cheryl and I had. Different places trigger happy/sad emotions. I know I’m not the only person who has suffered here. I remember looking at an oak seedling in the woods and wondered what it would look like in 100 years. Thanks for stirring my soul. Gary

 

Gary, that is a nice story! happy and sad emotions and also your good memories of the old oak seedling in the woods, I like that. Helena

 

Lou,

Thank you for these very kind words... It makes me so over the top happy!!!, TUTTAM!!!, knowing that in some small way, I'm providing you with the kind of support that can only come from those of us who have BTDT, "get" it, the support necessary to fight our daily battles with Mr. Grief. Intermittent grief SUCKS!!! That twisted, seemingly endless... roller coaster of emotions in Mr. Grief's amusement park, SUCKS!!! Wish we could bomb that twisted amusement park right out of existence... Dreaming can be a good thing...

Backing up a bit, I believe you, Linda, me, and Bob would have had some really fun times together... I hope Gary is right too... All TGW, and our soulmates, will meet someday... Love!!! Gary's way of thinking!!!, TUTTAM!!!

This is the first message I've read today, so stopping here (for now.) Hope however you decide to spend your day, it's a good one, or at least a mostly good one, with at least one, but hopefully many more, reasons to LMSO!!!, TUTTAM!!!

Sending you lots of hugs and love your way, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Lou,

I've had to tell Mr. Grief to "kiss my ass!!!," at least four times today, and it's not even noon... I'm determined NOT!!! to let Mr. Grief win today's battle!!!, TUTTAM!!! I woke up around 2 a.m, so many horrible memories of Bob's last week on earth flooded my mind... I couldn't stop some of the very worst memories of his final days from popping in and out of my head. I'm totally toasted (not in the way you're thinking, lol...), but and this is another one of those really BIG BUTS!!!, determined to make today as good a day as I possibly can!!!, TUTTAM!!! (So stale... but I think of anything better to replace it with (yet).)

As always, sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Deb. So sorry TUTTAM, TUTTAM!!!, another day, another battle!! It's so exausting, same here....we know our reality, what can we do? Just try to keep strong and safe, I wish that some good days will come soon.
Sending you all my love and many, many big hugs.
Helena

 

PS, Mr Greif deservers "Kiss my ass" too.

 

Gary,

I love!!! the way you NEVER!!! sugarcoat anything, give it to all of us, like it is, straight from your heart... I wish I was able to say things straight up too, but I'm thinking because of my upbringing, I still have problems being as direct as I want to be. I think it's harder to say things straight up when "talking" online rather than in person. It's too easy for people to misinterpret what I'm trying to say, when they can't see my facial expressions and body language. However, if it wasn't for your straight up approach to giving us advice, I never would have thought as hard, and as long as I did, about that "people pleaser" part of my personality. Balance..., moderation... is truly, as you said, the "great secret of life." I will always be so thankful..., so over the top grateful to you, for being upfront with me, in what seems like ages ago. You helped me BIG TIME!!! then, and continue to help me grow as a person now. I'm so glad you're part of our "family!!!," TUTTAM!!!

I'm sorry Mr. Grief hit you so hard the past couple of days, but glad you were able to handle those sucker punches from Mr. Grief, go with the flow..., let yourself fully grieve. If my widow brain isn't too foggy this morning, in the beginning of this horrible nightmare, you had trouble letting all of your emotions out. You've come such a long way as you continue to battle Mr. Grief. You are a true GW!!!, TUTTAM!!!

I'm so glad you were able to talk to a good friend, "visit" TGW, and are now feeling better. Grieving SUCKS!!!, but is so necessary, all at the same time. It helps us move forward, but SUCKS!!! in the process!!!, TUTTAM!!! It's so over the top bittersweet...

As always, sending you lots of hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Helena,

Thank you so much for your support... I really need it this morning!!!, TUTTAM!!! I refuse to let Mr. Grief trash my day, the way he refused to leave me alone, let me get a good night's rest last night. I have lots of things on my to do list I want to accomplish before nasty weather arrives tomorrow. I want to share a story with you, with all TGW, one of several reasons why I've been feeling so sad recently, but I need to step away from all this total heartbreak the very best I can for awhile. I need to focus on getting those things off of my to do list. As Gary recently said, "balance and moderation, the secret to life." So true...

So sorry Mr. Grief is invading your life BIG!!! TIME!!! today... Wrapping you in another one of those really BIG virtual hugs...

Sending lots more hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

WE keep on fighting the fight The Deb... day by day hour by hour minute by minute... itz all we can do!

 

Deb, I wish to be able to express my emotions the way you do!!....I pick up my tablet and I only write with one finger, it takes me long time to write and I make so many mistakes. Please keep "talking" to us online I appreciate all your kind words and help between TGW. I wish that we could talk in person, it will be much better to express the way we feel, our sadness or anger, all the emotions possible that only people that have experience the loss of a loved one understands..

Sending you more virtual hugs. Helena

 

Deb, The last week on earth is exactly the same for me (h0rrible hospital, clueless nurses, absent doctors and no one to listen to you when you tell them something is going wrong, too busy to even double check). AND having to watch the love of your life in pain = WTF - this is a modern technological huge facility full of incompetence. Only the last day got better because of a great nurse who went out of her way above and beyond. I still, like you, have horrible memories of this, I hope I die at home of a massive heart attack and never have to go through what he went through.
BUT that last day I also knew he was never getting better and I was willing to see him pass on beyond this world where he would not have to go through anymore pain. I told God I was ready, just let him have peace. I will gladly grief and cry and put up with the sadness to know he is beyond the pain and anxiety of this world. His dementia also made it so hard because sometimes he looked so lost. I prayed so much for him through his illness. There were good days, where we laughed together and held each other tight and would tell each other we loved each other no matter what! He didn't want to become a burden - I always told him that I loved him too much for him to ever be a burden to me. And he would say, please don't let anything happen to you. I think he would have been devastated if I had left him first. GOD it is SO PAINFUL AT TIMES>>>>
I ran across a quote early this morning:


Please KICK MR GRIEF IN THE ASS for me too!!! TUTTAM!!! For all of us! Sending you hugs, comfort, healing and the remembrance that there are many on GIC who suffer so many losses. I pray for us all that we can pick ourselves up, somehow let go of the pain, never forget the love, but move forward to a calm remembrance of all we had and shared...we are better people for it! Rita
Gotta go now cause I need a moment to get myself back together again,,,,sometimes, as you have said to us all, it is hard to read our messages and not fall into grief's hole again...but THEY (whoever they are) say it is necessary to live it all over, get it all out, and cry to get to a place of healing.

 

Dearest Helena, It is because of you that so many of us have been able to share our feelings with quotes/songs/poems because of this first quote from you. When are own words won't come, we can count on others who have said it and recorded it on the internet for all to see and read and use. When I read to try to find inspiration and solace and strength, others words are sometimes much better than I could ever had said it.
THANK YOU for starting the grief quote section of "Loss of Spouse". As you can see, many have migrated to this because it is a place where we can all share that one thing that unites all of us (TGW), GRIEF. No matter when it started, how bad it is, how differently we handle it, etc., the ability to express in verse or pictures sometimes says it all and speaks to everyone. Hugs and many wishes for healing, Rita

 

To all grief warriors, I'm so emotional reading all your posts, we're all really trying very hard to get through the worst time in our lives. We're trying -- some good days some bad days, but we're trying. Let's put a noose around Mr. Grief, let him hang for awhile for a little peace. Oh no, that was awful to say.

I'm finding it very positive to read some of your sharings, the things that you are doing to cope, get though your days. I have known some of you for a year and see the progress, as months went by, that you have accomplished in your grief journey and that gives me hope. I live with sadness now that I can't shake, probably a part of mourning I don't know. I'm one of the ones in my 70's and not much future left, but I keep trying hoping for contentment the rest of my life.

We are warriors and will conquer. Keep trying. Karen

 

(Not an awful feeling, I’ll bring the rope, maybe we’ll just tie mr. grief up and tether him to a pole for a while if hanging is too extreme)