dealing with loss of my mom and dad and sister

I loss my dad in April of 1998 from cancer and then of April 2008 I loss my older sister unexpectedly leaving behind her four young children to be raised. I just recently loss my only support system my mom this pass January of 2018 which I found her decease in her bed. I feel so overwhelmed with grief I spend days and night just crying all the time. My friends and some family members tell me to move on with my life they tell me to stop talking about their deaths and that I will get over it. It is hard trying to move on from their deaths at times I don't know what to do or cope. Sometimes I wish it was me that should be gone.

 

Don’t let anyone tell you to move on. I believe that grieving can get better with time, but this is your personal journey to travel. We never stop grieving, we just grieve differently!

 

I'm sorry to hear of your losses. That is a lot of heartache for one person to handle. My dad passed away suddenly 2 weeks ago and I'm devastated. I've also been told it gets easier, you have to start moving on, etc. which is why I found myself on here looking for people to talk to. I know others mean well, but until they experience it themselves, they really don't get it. Please don't feel it should be you that should be gone. I can't make your grief less, but I can be here to talk to you if you'd like.

 

I'm very sorry for your loss, that is a lot to deal with. I understand your pain, in a way. I lost my dad to cancer when I was 8 years old. I remember thinking that after that funeral, no other funeral will be the same for me. I was numb at every funeral after, until my step dad passed away suddenly when I was in my 20s. Then my father-in-law passed away after a long, miserable illness. Three dads I've lost, and all very special to me. I still miss them all everyday. My husband passed away suddenly in an auto wreck a month ago and it is beyond unbearable. I don't wear a lot of jewelry, but I made necklaces to honor them. I have an origami owl necklace to honor my dad and step-dad. I have a silver half dollar from my father-in-law's silver coin collection wrapped with silver wire to make a pendant. They found one penny, just one, on my husband at the funeral home, so I put that in a necklace. You find your way to deal with the pain and don't let anyone tell you that you're doing it wrong or should do it a different way. But, please don't give up on your purpose. You're still here for a reason. Hopefully this site will help you and you'll find a way to honor your loved ones.