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2nd Chritsmas is harder than the first!

Discussion in 'Coping After a Sudden Loss' started by Emsmom92, Dec 22, 2018.

  1. Emsmom92

    Emsmom92 New Member

    My husband died November 29, 2017 from complications of a heart attack.. Last year I was surrounded with support from my family and friends. This year I feel very alone. Everybody goes about their business with their celebrations and everything is still very different for me. Does anybody else feel this way?
     
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  2. LindaH

    LindaH Well-Known Member

    Sorry for your loss.
    I know what you are talking about when you say "everything is still very different for me."

    First year we are surrounded by family and friends.
    Then at some point during that second year everyone else goes about their business.
    This is my third Christmas without my husband.
    He died two years and nine months ago.

    Second year I think is the year when reality sets in that they are really gone.
    I honestly wish I had an good answer for you.
    I want to scream out to my family..."can you not see I am hurting"
     
  3. Emsmom92

    Emsmom92 New Member

    Its so nice to know that I am not the only one to feel like this. Everybody goes on about their lives but mine has changed. Try to have a Merry Christmas or I pray we just get through this Season. Hugs
     
  4. LindaH

    LindaH Well-Known Member

    Thanks. You try to have a Merry Christmas too! Hugs
    During the holidays I just do what I can.
    Yesterday I did host Christmas at my house for the first time. It went well but I did excuse myself a couple of times just because I was feeling overwhelmed.

    What I found nice was that everyone at the table took turns telling a story about my husband.
    Not sure who's idea this was but it was very sweet.
    It was nice knowing that they were all thinking of him.
    Last year Christmas was at someone else's house and it hurt me that his name was never mentioned.

    Hang in there!