Shattered Heart

Discussion in 'Finding it Difficult to Move Foward' started by Cyndi Johnson, Oct 1, 2017.

  1. Cyndi Johnson

    Cyndi Johnson New Member

    My Husband, soul mate, best friend (you get the picture)passed suddenly, shockingly in his sleep. We took a nap, I woke up he never did February 24, 2017..... I cannot do much but cry. Sadness surrounds my being no matter what I attempt to try.
  2. Dianne De Mott Levi

    Dianne De Mott Levi New Member

    I am so sorry. I lost the love of my Life on March 22nd, 2016. I too have no joy in my heart.
  3. Sheila512

    Sheila512 New Member

    I share your has been a little over a year and I actually feel worse. I think keeping busy was my coping mechanism and when I stop and think for a moment, it all comes back. I put his picture up as my screensaver...he is smiling and it comforts me and the tears are good then.
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  4. griefic

    griefic Administrator Staff Member

    Hi Sheila, thanks for being here with us. You're right...being busy can help, but it isn't a cure. I think grief usually hits the hardest when we stop. When it's quiet, or when we're without a task right in front of us. For some the answer is to never stop and to never be without something to do...but I'm not sure that really helps. The real healing happens when we're able to sit in that quiet and work through the grief that comes with it. In some ways we can welcome it, as the testament to our love that it provides. We can become comfortable with the grief as the reminder of true love that will always be with us. Knowing that nothing can ever bring our loved one back may mean it's the only choice we have.
    I am glad you are here sharing your story and hope you will continue to return to let us know how you're doing...
    We truly wish you all the best~
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