Lost my son

Discussion in 'Loss of Adult Child' started by Anita, Jun 30, 2017.

  1. Anita

    Anita New Member

    My 26 year old son died of drugs it was the first year anniversary on June17.2017
     
  2. JamieO

    JamieO New Member

    I'm so sorry Anita. The first anniversary is so painful! Take care of yourself, allow yourself to grieve in your own way. I wish
    I could give you more than words but know you are not alone. I am crying with you from a distance, and sending you healing and warm wishes.
     
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  3. PhyllisG

    PhyllisG Active Member

    Hey Anita - I am so very sorry for your loss. Your post REALLY caught my attention, because my 26 year-old son ALSO died of a drug overdose on June 17, 2016. June 17th of 2017 was such an extremely difficult day for me, and I have no doubt that you understand what I mean. It is so sad that this same thing is happening every day, all over the country (even the world probably), and there are far too many young people in their 20's that are dying every single day because of this epidemic. Not only do I feel deeply sad that I can't see my son, Joey (my only child) or hear his voice, it makes me even more sad that I will never be a grandmother. However, I do find comfort in knowing that my Joey is no longer suffering from trying to battle his addiction to heroin, nor will he ever have to go through losing either me or his father. Know that you are in my prayers. Take care and check back in soon.

    Phyllis
     
  4. Anita

    Anita New Member

    It is a sad time I still don't think I have accepted it it was my 23 year old step daughter who gave it to him so she is getting charged for it I just miss him so much I will try to accept it after the vase is over I can't even look at anything of his with out breaking down thank you for the reply
     
  5. Anita

    Anita New Member

    Thank you so much I will have to accept it I just am not ready yet
     
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  6. PhyllisG

    PhyllisG Active Member

    Anita, I just wanted to let you know I am praying for you today and you are in my thoughts. I know it is difficult, so please know we are all thinking of you. God Bless.

    Phyllis
     
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  7. JamieO

    JamieO New Member

    Dear Anita, you don't have to accept your horrific loss in anyone's time but your own. Be kind to yourself, reach out when you need it, sit in the quiet when you need it, take all the time you need. I am thinking of you, praying for you, sending love your way. I promise you are not alone, others understand.
     
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  8. Frankie

    Frankie New Member


    I am so sorry for your loss Anita. I lost my Son 1 May of this year (2017). This last fathers day was the worst fathers day. My birthday and my son's birthday are coming up soon and I am not looking forward to them. Our children should not go before us, so this passing really threw the natural order out of whack and really mest up our lives.
     
  9. PaulsMom

    PaulsMom Member

     
  10. PaulsMom

    PaulsMom Member

    Sadly, I can relate to both of you since I lost my son 11/12/15 from heroin OD. He was only 28, my only child and u really have been reminded how I also will NEVER be a grandmother or have any grandchildren (to spoil & love) I had thought that MAYBE one day I could see him with his own to raise & LOVE. He was always soooo patient with baby's & young kids. That dream was lost before he even died as he stopped by while his GF was at "the clinic" & he was waiting for her. . I truly believe he was far from prepared to BE a parent, it still comes to mind and heart. I think the Serenity Prayer comes in handy with these situations. I wish I could stop all dreams that won't come true.
     
  11. PaulsMom

    PaulsMom Member

    I'm soooo sorry for both of your losses ❣
     
  12. Ray Wagner

    Ray Wagner New Member

    Frankie, lost my 30 yr old son Dec.11, 2016 the first anniversary of our loss is coming up, it was a sudden loss he was wade fishing, and drowned he was expecting his first child a baby boy which is now six months old, never got to hold his son, he was a teacher and a coach a very respectful and loved young man, I know it will be hard in the days coming up, so please be brave and cling to God for strength that’s all I do is pray each day that Jesus will get me through it and others like me
     
  13. I am so sorry, prayers for God to give comfort to you and your family. Patti