1. Angie Richy

    Angie Richy New Member

    How can i get my grownup and moved out kids to accept that when i date im not tryin to replace their dad? We were soul mates and il never find that kinda love again but i was only 45 when i was a widow...too young to sit at home alone waiting to die..#Angry xx

    KIKI2LUV4EVER New Member

    I know how you feel with 2 adult children and I'm 65 and also feel it's time to try!
  3. griefic

    griefic Administrator Staff Member

    To Angie & Kiki- thank you for sharing your struggles with us here. I feel like this is the part of grieving that no one wants to talk about. As uncomfortable as people can be with grief, they may find it even harder to see the griever try to move forward. Only you can understand the true experience of being a widow, and it's important to take your own needs into consideration. We have an article on our blog page regarding dating again after the loss of a spouse. You can find it here: http://www.griefincommon.com/blog/dating-after-the-loss-of-a-spouse/. You may want to share some of this information with your children as well to help them try to understand. It's a tricky balance, because of course they will always mourn the loss of their father, but you need to continue forward in the way that feels right for you as well. I wish you both the best of luck. Please let us know if we can be of any further support to you, and please take care~
  4. Angie Richy

    Angie Richy New Member

    It makes it harder that the guy im.:dating" keeps me on a long leash..blows hot n cold...wants me to visit and stay over every night fer a wile then i dont hear from him!! Then he says im a skitso for calling him out on his behaviour!!..Makes me miss my husband all the more...
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  5. Andrea Howey

    Andrea Howey Member

    Angie , I so understand this comment . It makes you angry at your spouse for putting back in this situation. You look for your husband in everyone you meet . There just isn't another man that compares . How do you seperate the old with the new . And adult children having to have their say , really did I do that to you when you were looking for someone to love . Lets not forget I am Mom . Just want a companion someone to do thi gs with dinner , movies , outing and such . Nobody deserves to be ali e .
  6. Celeste3

    Celeste3 New Member

    Lose him!
  7. Rob B

    Rob B Member

    I was surprised when a woman (friend of a friend ) whom I've up till recently only spoken to casually asked me to coffee. I accepted and had a nice friendly conversation. This has now grown to include a couple dinner dates. I'll never forget the wonderful life which Cheryl and I shared but it really feels nice to be held again and have someone want to be with you. After my wife's death, I honestly didn't care if I would have dropped dead or not, almost wishing it some days. Just know that there is life after the darkness of a loved ones death. You may not see it now, but there is always hope. Take care.
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